How To Fail With Elizabeth Day

Natasha Hamilton was 16 when she signed a record deal with the girl band, Atomic Kitten. The group went on to sell over 10 million records and achieve three UK Number One singles including Whole Again and The Tide Is High. But the pressures of fame affected her mental health and made her feel isolated and judged. After five years and the birth of her first son, Hamilton quit the band.

Today, Hamilton tells that story - the one that existed behind the headlines. We talk about the toxicity of 90s and early Y2K media, surviving postnatal depression and financial catastrophe after divorce. Plus we talk about why she set up her own record label, Morpho, to focus on nurturing and empowering young talent rather than - as she puts it - ‘moulding them into a product’. An amazing woman whose resilience should be an inspiration to us all!

Natasha Hamilton’s new single Fantasy is out now.

✨ IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Introduction

03:15 Forties And Clarity

04:47 Writing Numb

06:03 Morpho Records And Duty Of Care

08:11 Bullied But Born To Sing

14:13 Fame Tabloids And Numbness

21:40 Whole Again And Industry Bias

29:37 Making Peace With The Band

31:17 Rebuilding Sisterhood Again

31:37 Losing Pop Star Identity

32:43 Shock Pregnancy And Isolation

35:17 Postnatal Breakdown And Help

38:12 CBT And Taking Control

40:40 New Career In Beauty

46:00 Divorce Money Chaos And Recovery

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

From the age of 16 I was constantly told who to be: what to do, how to look, how to act - I’d never been given the reins of my own life before.

There is no wrong decision, if it works it works.

I thought: everyone’s judging me for not being thin enough.

Fame was so isolating.

If you’re struggling - talk to someone.

It’s incredible what can happen when you back yourself.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Natasha Hamilton’s new single, Numb, is out now

If you need someone to talk to, the Samaritans are available 24 hours a day: www.samaritans.org or call on 116 123

Join the How To Fail community: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

Elizabeth’s Substack: www.theelizabethday.substack.com

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Louise Thompson - on how severe trauma after childbirth, chronic illness and the loss of her former identity forced her to rebuild her life with self-compassion: swap.fm/l/LouiseThompson

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Elizabeth and Natasha answer listener questions in our subscriber series, Failing with Friends. Join our community of subscribers here: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

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Production & Post Production Coordinator: Eric Ryan

Engineer: Matias Torres

Assistant Producer: Shania Manderson

Senior Producer: Hannah Talbot

Executive Producer: Alex Lawless

How to Fail is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment Production.

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Motherhood is often portrayed purely as a joyful, magical chapter of life – and while it certainly can be – we rarely speak openly about the hard, exhausting and deeply challenging truths.

In this episode, singer‑songwriter Jessie Ware reflects on becoming a parent while building a career in the public eye. She talks about the pressure she felt to prove she could do everything at once, the exhaustion that followed and the grounding process of learning to be present rather than perfect.

We also hear from novelist Francesca Segal, who shares the story of her twins’ premature birth and the unexpected reality of early motherhood inside a neonatal ward. She describes the chasm between the idealised story of birth and the lived experience many mothers face.

I hope this episode brings comfort to anyone navigating the complexities of motherhood. May it remind you that every journey is different, that there is no single right way to parent and that you are never alone in this experience.

Listen to Jessie’s full episode of How to Fail here: http://swap.fm/l/8cUuwGs4vc7tAXiPcDab

Listen to Francesca’s full episode of How to Fail here: swap.fm/l/MsPtRFvgP8z18GLPgpdL

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Maternal Support: https://maternalmentalhealthalliance.org/ https://mothersformothers.co.uk/

Elizabeth’s Substack: https://theelizabethday.substack.com/

Join the How To Fail community: https://howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

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Rosamund Pike! What a woman. Famed for her portrayals of razor-sharp, morally complex and deliciously unpredictable characters, she brings that same intriguing duality to this conversation. Thoughtful and quietly rebellious, she reflects on a career that has defied neat narratives from the very beginning.

After taking a year out from studying English at University of Oxford to pursue acting, she graduated and stepped straight into the global spotlight as Bond girl Miranda Frost in Die Another Day. From there came a string of unforgettable movies: Pride & Prejudice, Jack Reacher, A Private War and Saltburn. Her chilling performance in Gone Girl earned her an Oscar nomination and she took home a Golden Globe for I Care a Lot. In 2025, she returned to the stage for the first time in 15 years in the National Theatre’s production of Inter Alia.

In this episode, she talks about her ‘failure’ to get married, the realities of raising two sons and her decision not to read a single review of her work for the past 25 years. Plus why she’s ‘constantly in battle’ with her own fear, her failure to be an action movie hero, her miserable attempt to cook a rabbit and whether or not she’s ‘cool’.

✨ IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Intro

03:18 No reviews rule

06:57 Early perfectionism and stage craft

07:58 Inter Alia and modern womanhood

10:09 Luminate meditation mask

12:42 Failure to learn Chinese

19:09 Onstage mishaps and acting roles

28:59 What Cool Really Means

29:26 Cool Girl vs Amy

32:21 Failing at Being An Action Star

36:52 Failure to Get Married

45:17 Mothering Two Boys

47:28 Smells and Teen Hygiene

48:44 Rabbit Dinner and Being Enough

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

Failure is usually pretending to be someone you’re not.

I don’t think you ever regret having a big love affair - even if goes to shit.

I’m quite a coward. I like to play brave people because I’m not. I’m constantly in battle with my own fear.

Cool means that you can go your own way. You don't give too many, f***s... you can think originally.

I didn’t want to be the sex symbol.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Inter Alia is on at the Wyndham’s Theatre: 19 March - 20 June 2026

Rosamund’s Meditation App is: www.lumenate.co

Join the How To Fail community: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

Elizabeth’s Substack: www.theelizabethday.substack.com

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Glennon Doyle - on wildness, the end of people-pleasing and why we can all do hard things swap.fm/l/Nd3ZzVy73FXUMupJ4i1q

Phoebe Waller Bridge - on creative control, perfectionism and the fear of being misunderstood swap.fm/l/gTCOCJUmXX9t22mTABSa

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Elizabeth and Rosamund answer listener questions in our subscriber series, Failing with Friends. Join our community of subscribers here: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

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Production & Post Production Coordinator: Eric Ryan

Engineer: Matias Torres

Assistant Producer: Shania Manderson

Senior Producer: Hannah Talbot

Executive Producer: Alex Lawless

How to Fail is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment Production.

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In this one‑off special, Elizabeth sits down with author Rebecca Coxon to discuss family, fertility and the secrets that have shaped her life: after uploading her DNA to an ancestry site, Rebecca discovered that the man who raised her was not her biological father – a revelation that sent her on a remarkable search for the truth about her origins.

Her memoir Inconceivable launches Elizabeth’s new imprint, Big Day Books. Rebecca writes with clarity and compassion about being a donor‑conceived IVF triplet, later donating her own eggs and facing fertility treatment herself – a story of family secrets, shame, resilience and deep love.

You don’t need personal experience of IVF or DNA surprises to be moved by this conversation. Rebecca is thoughtful, emotionally perceptive and quietly courageous. She speaks about having her identity reshaped overnight, the coexistence of gratitude and grief, and the invisible threads that bind us across generations.

This is a discussion about truth, belonging and the ethics and emotions of creating new life – and about redefining family not by biology alone, but through love, choice and understanding.

A deeply honest, intimate and ultimately hopeful discussion – and a very special moment for How to Fail.

✨ IN THIS EPISODE:

00:00 Intro

01:15 Donor Conceived Truth

02:52 Test Results Moment

05:26 Endometriosis Reality

07:57 Choosing Egg Donation

08:36 US Donor Market

10:26 Recipient Letter Impact

13:58 Dating And Time Pressure

15:53 James And IVF Collapse

20:50 Meeting Donor Rodney

30:47 Pregnancy After Book

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

The experience of watching your friends have babies. Every milestone in their lives feels like a splinter in mine.

I'm still on the shoreline waiting for my time, and I'm standing alongside people who are struggling." — Rebecca describes the mindset she had while finishing her book, just before discovering she was pregnant.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Rebecca’s new book Inconceivable is available to buy now: www.bigdaybooks.co.uk/inconceivable

Join the How To Fail community: www.howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

Elizabeth’s Substack: www.theelizabethday.substack.com

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Production & Post Production Coordinator: Eric Ryan

Engineer: Matias Torres

Assistant Producer: Shania Manderson

Senior Producer: Hannah Talbot

Executive Producer: Alex Lawless

How to Fail is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment Production.

Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts

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Toni Laites made history last year as the first American to win Love Island, but her journey to the villa was anything but ordinary.

Discovered in Las Vegas working as a cabana girl by the show’s creative director, Toni was persuaded to fly 6,000 miles to Mallorca. The rest, as they say, is history.

But you don’t need to be a Love Island superfan to love this episode. Toni is funny, emotionally intelligent and disarmingly honest. She opens up about living with the chronic illness Ulcerative Colitis, her pattern of choosing the wrong men in the past, working through anxious attachment and the hard-won strength it takes to forgive yourself.

This is a conversation about resilience, self-awareness and what it really means to back yourself - even when the odds (and the public vote) are against you.

✨ IN THIS EPISODE:

03:18 Vegas Sales to Villa Casting

05:36 Saying Yes to Love Island

07:21 Life Inside the Villa

08:33 Votes, Outcasts and Forgiveness

10:57 The Big Three Friendship

14:18 Health Scare and Ulcerative Colitis

28:10 Tourist In London

28:43 Toxic Dating Patterns

32:22 Pressure On Her Relationship

34:57 Fame And Social Media

37:34 Family And Attachment

44:28 Self Criticism And Hate

49:44 Plan For The Future

💬 QUOTES TO REMEMBER:

There is value in doing nothing and taking a step back and waiting for good things to come.

I always say not all disabilities are visible and people don't really understand what that's like.

🔗 LINKS + MENTIONS:

Join the How To Fail community: https://howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

Elizabeth’s Substack: https://theelizabethday.substack.com/

📚 WANT MORE?

Olivia Attwood - on heartbreak, public scrutiny and building a successful career after Love Island.

Jessel Taank - on infertility, identity and The Real Housewives of New York.

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Elizabeth and Toni answer listener questions in our subscriber series, Failing with Friends. Join our community of subscribers here: https://howtofail.supportingcast.fm/#content

Have a failure you’re trying to work through for Elizabeth to discuss? Click here to get in touch: howtofailpod.com

Production & Post Production Coordinator: Eric Ryan

Engineer: Matias Torres

Assistant Producer: Shania Manderson

Senior Producer: Hannah Talbot

Executive Producer: Alex Lawless

How to Fail is an Elizabeth Day and Sony Music Entertainment Production.

Find more great podcasts from Sony Music Entertainment at sonymusic.com/podcasts

To bring your brand to life in this podcast, email [email protected]
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