AuDHD Sparks

> This is the first episode of the PATHS series—a series of episodes exploring  unconventional ways AuDHD women can design their own lives. <
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I was in my late thirties, recovering from a major AuDHD burnout. And in the final reckoning with the question I'd labored over for a decade: Was I going to have kids? 
I didn't trust my capacity. I didn't know if someone with my sensory sensitivities and need for alone time could be a healthy, present parent. 
But what if being childfree isn't opting out? What if it’s not selfish or lazy or any other adjective? What if it's simply a different choice–one that claims another ancestral role that's always existed?
In this episode:
The ancestral role of the auntie—horizontal lineage instead of vertical
How being childfree creates capacity to show up resourced for your people
Moving from "childless" (lack) to "childfree" (lineage)

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You make the perfect plan. Color-coded. Time-blocked. Beautiful. Then three days in, your whole system rebels.
Or the opposite. You wake up with energy, ready to follow the spark, and suddenly you're overwhelmed because there's no structure and you don't know where to start.
What if we're not flawed for needing routine AND spontaneity? What if the constant tug-of-war between structure and flow isn't a problem to solve—it's our actual design?
In this episode:
Why the boom-bust cycle keeps happening (and what it's actually telling you)
The way our way-back grandmothers worked with this duality
How to shift when you’re feeling scattered or trapped
When the scientist shows up, when the witch does—and why both are your medicine
Building rituals that breathe instead of suffocate

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You're tracking what they're saying while also monitoring yourself. Did you interrupt again? Was that tangent too much? By the end, you're exhausted—not from the conversation, but from how you had to have it.
What if your communication style—the weaving, the jumping in, the directness, the pauses—isn't flawed? What if it's how your brain was designed to connect?
In this episode:
How to navigate the unique communication paradox being both Autistic AND ADHD creates
The double layer of shame: ableism plus gendered conditioning about "good girls don't interrupt"
What changes when you find spaces that actually welcome how you talk

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You finally understand why everything felt so hard. You have language for it now. But you're still overloaded, still apologizing for needing things differently, still in boom/bust cycles.
What if knowing you're AuDHD wasn't the end of the journey—but the beginning of remembering something much older?
Your sensitivity, your pattern-seeing, your inability to "just be normal"—these aren't mistakes. They're ancestral. They run through a lineage of people who lived at the edges and held medicine the village needed.
This episode reframes everything you've been taught about your brain. Not as broken. Not as something to fix. But as an inheritance with a role.
In this episode:
Why your AuDHD traits mirror the exact patterns our way-back grandmothers carried
What happens when you stop living a borrowed life and build one that fits your actual brain
How ancient roles translate to modern paths (and a sneak peek into what Season 2 will explore)
The real reason being resourced isn't selfish—and it's not about productivity
Welcome to Season 2.

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It’s our season 1 finale! Today’s episode is about taking everything you've learned about your brain and weaving it into an actual life that works.
It brings together all 16 previous episodes into one complete picture: what does ecosystem design actually look like when you're building something that doesn't exist yet?
No theory. Just concrete examples of how to become the architect when there's no blueprint.
In this episode:
The five principles for redesigning your life when no model exists
Real examples: intergenerational housing, hybrid work, balancing home base with adventure
Why you have to design for your actual capacity (not your wished-for capacity)
How to gather data by working backwards through burnout patterns
What becomes possible when your whole ecosystem finally supports your brain
This is survival-level design—not luxury, not self-indulgence.

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