Finding Mastery with Dr. Michael Gervais

Why is change so hard, and what actually makes it possible?
Dr Joe Dispenza returns to Finding Mastery for his second conversation with Dr. Michael Gervais. He is an author, lecturer, and researcher whose work on meditation and the mind-body connection draws people from dozens of countries to his weeklong events.
His starting point is that most of us run on what we already know. By the middle of life, he says, much of who we are has become familiar, the same thoughts and the same reactions arriving on their own. His interest is in what it takes to step outside that, and in making the process teachable and learnable.
They get into the prefrontal cortex and what it does when we set a clear intention, why the present moment is the only place the unknown lives, and what shifts when attention moves from a narrow focus to a wide one.
Dr Joe’s definition of mastery is knowing that you know. What arrives with it, he says, is quiet grace.
Enjoy the conversation.
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Links & Resources
Dr Joe Dispenza’s Website: drjoedispenza.com
Dr Joe Dispenza’s Books: New You, New Life: Reprogram Your Mind and Body to Create the Future You Want (audio original), Becoming Supernatural, You Are the Placebo, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself
Dr Joe Dispenza’s Retreats and Online Courses and Programs: drjoedispenza.com
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Mike’s son, Grayson, wrote a book to parents about young athletes, and it challenges how we think about supporting our kids through sport.
Those of us with kids in youth sports know what the experience gives them... teamwork, commitment, the skill of balancing a full week. We have come at that subject often on this podcast, usually through the lens of the coach, the parent, or the research. This one comes from the kid’s angle – from the court, the car ride home, and the receiving end of those parent and child conversations.
Grayson has played competitive club volleyball for six years, four of them as a varsity player and a captain. He wrote the book as a high school senior, in the middle of his last season, while the lessons were still fresh.
It’s called Dear Parent: Sport Isn’t Easy. Here’s How to Have Our Back. Eleven chapters… tough teammates, coaches who get something wrong, and what a club sport actually costs in time and sleep. Each one is a story, what he took from it, and something a parent can try that week.
Mike and Grayson get into the moments Grayson felt supported and the times where he didn’t, how he learned to separate the player from the person when a season went sideways, and the thin line between extra work and burnout.
You also get to watch Mike as a dad and Grayson as a son.
The question the book leaves us with is not whether our kids’ teams won or lost... It is whether we honored the person while we were developing the player.
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Links & Resources:
Grayson Gervais’s Book: Dear Parent: Sport Isn’t Easy. Here’s How to Have Our Back.
Book Website: dearparentbook.com and you can get your copy here.
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Finding a way to coach yourself with challenge and grace can be an extraordinary unlock for performance.
Mikaela Shiffrin is an Olympic gold medalist and the winningest alpine ski racer in World Cup history. We first released this conversation in 2023. Since then, she has won Olympic slalom gold at Milano Cortina and her sixth overall World Cup title, tying the women’s record, and what she describes in this conversation is the inner work that was already well underway.
Mikaela and Mike get into the performance anxiety that had her sick at the start gate years into her career, the self-coaching habit she developed to put her own assessment first, and the race she lost at Killington that she calls the most free she has ever felt in her career. She is open about how long she let the outside world dictate how she felt about her own skiing before she reclaimed that for herself.
Coaching yourself well is incredibly difficult, and Mikaela shows us in this conversation what becomes possible when you do it in a world-class way.
Enjoy the conversation.
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Links & Resources
Mikaela Shiffrin: linktr.ee/mikaelashiffrin
Mikaela Shiffrin’s YouTube Series: Moving Right Along, on her channel youtube.com/@mikaelashiffrin
Mikaela Shiffrin’s Podcast: What’s the Point with Mikaela Shiffrin: listen here
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What happens to the rest of your relationships when the one you have with yourself goes untended?
Dr. Thema Bryant is a clinical psychologist, tenured professor of psychology at Pepperdine University, director of the Culture and Trauma Research Laboratory, and former president of the American Psychological Association. She hosts The Homecoming Podcast and wrote Matters of the Heart: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself and Those You Love.
Thema emphasizes that one of the biggest predictors of our mental wellbeing is not your achievement or your bank account. It is the people you spend your time with.
Thema and Mike get into her working definition of trauma, the difference between guilt and shame, and why so much people pleasing begins as a strategy for staying safe. Thema talks about being evacuated from Liberia as a teenager during a civil war, and the shift in her own identity after the death of her mother.
This conversation is also for the person doing well by every external measure who sees no reason to do any of this work. It is not that you need to, Thema says. It’s that you deserve to.
At one point, Mike asks her how we would lead differently if we knew what she knew. Thema’s answer is that you would not leave yourself behind.
Enjoy the conversation.
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Links & Resources:
Dr. Thema Bryant’s Website: drthema.com
Dr. Thema Bryant’s Books: Matters of the Heart: Healing Your Relationship with Yourself and Those You Love, Reclaim Yourself: The Homecoming Workbook, Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self, The Antiracism Handbook
Dr. Thema Bryant’s Podcast: The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema (video version on YouTube, audio on Spotify and Apple Podcasts)
Mentioned in this conversation: Dr. Lisa Miller’s research on spirituality as a protective factor for mental health. Her Finding Mastery episode: The Psychology of Spirituality | Dr. Lisa Miller. Her book: The Awakened Brain: The New Science of Spirituality and Our Quest for an Inspired Life.
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“…the stories that we tell ourselves and other people become our lives.”
— IN-Q
This is a conversation about the story you are living inside, about creativity as a practice rather than a talent, and about why being witnessed helps us release what we might otherwise carry alone.
Before this conversation started, IN-Q walked the entire Finding Mastery team through a poetry workshop. Each person wrote about a personal experience with risk that changed the direction of their life, then read it out loud to the room. Mike opens this episode saying he has never started a podcast feeling the way he felt coming out of it.
IN-Q is a spoken word artist, two-time Emmy-nominated lyricist, multi-platinum songwriter, keynote speaker, and bestselling author of Inquire Within. He has written songs with Selena Gomez, Miley Cyrus, and Aloe Blacc, and he was one of the original members of Da Poetry Lounge in Los Angeles, the open mic he calls church without religion.
IN-Q and Mike get into the three guidelines he gives people before they write, and the night he read his old breakup poems and realized every one of them applied to the new breakup.
He also describes giving himself the room every morning to decide not to be a poet. Choosing it again each day – instead of waking up already being one – keeps the work from turning into a life he inherited from a version of himself that has already faded away.
Both of them tell stories about an old chip on the shoulder, and the two trace back to a similar place. The chip became fuel. IN-Q calls it unhealthy fuel, and describes chipping away at it now, trying to turn it into a sculpture.
Change your story, change your life, is how he puts it. He also tells you exactly where to start.
Enjoy the conversation.
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Links & Resources
IN-Q’s Website: in-q.com
IN-Q’s Books: Inquire Within, The Never Ending Now Poetry Journal
IN-Q’s Album: The Never Ending Now (featuring Isabella Turso)
IN-Q’s Poetry Special: IN-Q – Live at the Ace Theatre, streaming on Amazon Prime Video
IN-Q’s Poetry Workshops and Retreats: in-q.com/poetry-workshops
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