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What If Self-Confidence Isn’t the Answer and Self-Trust Is What You’ve Been Missing?

Most people think the opposite of self-doubt is confidence. In this conversation, Dr. Shadé Zahrai completely flips that belief on its head. She is a behavioral researcher, bestselling author of Big Trust, and one of the most insightful minds I’ve ever sat down with when it comes to understanding why high performers still struggle with anxiety, overthinking, and that constant feeling of not being enough. I’ll be honest, her work challenged some of the things I’ve taught for years, and that’s exactly why this episode matters.

We dive deep into why waiting to feel confident is keeping so many people stuck and why self-trust always has to come first. Dr. Zahrai breaks down the four core attributes that shape how we experience doubt, including acceptance, agency, autonomy, and emotional adaptability. She explains why doubt isn’t something to eliminate, but something to rise above by strengthening who you are underneath it. If you’ve ever felt like an anxious overachiever who keeps pushing but never quite feels settled, you’re going to feel seen in this conversation.

One of the most powerful parts of this episode is how expectation bias quietly shapes your reality. Dr. Zahrai shares fascinating research that shows how the scars you believe you’re carrying can completely change how you experience conversations, relationships, and opportunities, even when those scars are not real. We also talk about why validation from achievement, praise, or external approval is one of the most dangerous traps high performers fall into and why it leaves so many successful people feeling empty.

We also get extremely practical. Dr. Zahrai walks through tools that actually work, including how to stop obsessing over outcomes, how to quiet the inner critical voices that sabotage momentum, and why self-forgetting through service is one of the fastest ways to restore confidence. I also share a technique from her book that has already changed how I deal with worry, and if you’re someone who struggles with anxiety or rumination, this alone is worth listening to the episode.

This conversation is not surface-level motivation. It’s real inner work. If you’ve ever felt stuck between who you are and who you know you’re capable of becoming, this episode will give you a framework to rebuild trust in yourself and move forward with clarity and peace.

Key Takeaways


Why self-trust always comes before confidence and action


The four core attributes that protect you from self-doubt


How expectation bias shapes your relationships and results


Why obsession with outcomes erodes self-belief


A simple daily practice to reduce worry and overthinking


How to quiet your inner critic without forcing fake positivity

Listen now, and start building the kind of trust in yourself that no setback can take away.
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What happens when winning stops feeling like enough and achievement quietly turns into a trap?

In this mashup episode, I want to talk about something I see all the time with high performers. People who are doing well on the outside but feel empty, restless, or disconnected on the inside. This conversation is about escaping the achievement trap and redefining success in a way that actually brings peace, fulfillment, and joy.

I sit down with LeAnn Rimes to unpack what it looks like to grow up chasing validation and applause, only to realize later that external success cannot heal internal wounds. LeAnn opens up about the emotional cost of performing for approval, the courage it takes to slow down, and how self awareness and self compassion became the real breakthroughs in her life. Her honesty is powerful and it speaks directly to anyone who has ever felt pressure to keep proving themselves.

I also bring in Rob Dyrdek, who shares how redefining his definition of winning changed everything. Rob talks about shifting from grinding nonstop to building a life by design, where happiness, relationships, and impact matter just as much as productivity. This is a masterclass in intentional living and understanding that fulfillment is not found in the next milestone, but in alignment with who you really are.

Throughout this mashup, I break down the mindset shifts that help you move from chasing achievements to creating meaning. We talk about why so many driven people feel unfulfilled, how comparison fuels the trap, and what it actually takes to feel proud of your life, not just your resume. If you have ever thought, I should feel happier than this by now, this episode is for you.

Key Takeaways:


Why constant achievement can quietly disconnect you from fulfillment


How external validation creates pressure instead of peace


The mindset shift from proving yourself to accepting yourself


How to redefine success in a way that supports happiness and relationships


Why slowing down can actually accelerate clarity and purpose

This is about learning to win without losing yourself. It is about success that feels good to live with, not just impressive to look at. My hope is that this episode gives you permission to redefine the game and start playing it in a way that truly serves you.

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What if the pain you’re fighting isn’t coming from your body at all, but from patterns wired deep inside your brain?

In this powerful conversation, I sit down once again with one of the most impactful thinkers I know, Dr. Daniel Amen, to unpack a truth that changed how I see stress, pain, trauma, and healing. This is his fourth time on the show, and there’s a reason you keep asking for him. Dr. Amen has helped millions of people understand their brains better, including me, and his newest work hit me harder than any book he’s written before.

We go deep into the idea that pain is not just a signal from your body, but a story your brain is telling. Whether it shows up as back pain, anxiety, depression, or chronic stress, the root often lives in specific brain circuits that get hijacked by trauma, unresolved emotion, inflammation, and unhealthy habits. I open up about my own childhood, the stress patterns I still carry, and how those experiences changed my brain in ways I never fully understood until now.

Dr. Amen breaks down the pain HQ loop and explains how emotional pain, physical pain, and even moral or spiritual pain can trap you in cycles of suffering that feel impossible to escape. We talk about adverse childhood experiences, why unresolved rage often turns into chronic pain, and how habits like poor sleep, diet, and suppressed emotions quietly flip genetic switches that impact not just you, but future generations.

But this conversation is not just about understanding the problem. It is about getting out. We walk through the healing loop and the exact tools that calm the brain, raise heart rate variability, and restore control over your nervous system. From diaphragmatic breathing and progressive relaxation to journaling, EMDR, hyperbaric oxygen, and nutritional support, this episode is packed with practical ways to take your power back.

If you have ever felt stuck in your body, your mind, or your emotions, this episode will change how you see yourself. The real question Dr. Amen leaves us with is simple and life-altering: Is what you’re doing right now good for your brain or bad for it? Answer that honestly, and everything starts to shift.

Key Takeaways:

Why pain is often created and amplified by brain circuits, not just physical injury

How childhood trauma and stress hijack the brain’s pain and suffering pathways

What the pain HQ loop is and how it keeps people stuck in chronic stress and pain

Simple daily practices that calm your nervous system and improve brain health

Why your habits today affect your children and grandchildren more than you think

This is one of those episodes you’ll want to listen to more than once and share with someone who’s been carrying pain they cannot explain. Get ready to see healing in a completely new way.

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What if your biggest memory struggles have nothing to do with your intelligence and everything to do with how your brain is wired?

In this mashup episode, I bring together four of the most respected minds in brain performance and human potential to break down how memory really works and how you can unlock it at a much higher level starting today. If you have ever said “I’m just bad at remembering names,” “I can’t focus,” or “I don’t retain what I read,” this conversation is going to change how you see yourself.

You’re going to hear from Jim Kwik, Dr. Caroline Leaf, Dr. Joe Dispenza, and John Assaraf as we unpack the four primary brain types and why trying to learn the same way as everyone else is holding you back. Jim Kwik explains how identifying your dominant brain type allows you to finally work with your mind instead of fighting it. Dr. Caroline Leaf dives into the science of neuroplasticity and how your thoughts and habits literally reshape your brain over time. Dr. Joe Dispenza connects memory, focus, and emotional regulation, showing how stress and identity can either enhance or hijack your ability to learn. And John Assaraf breaks down how belief systems and repetition program your subconscious to either expand or limit what your brain retains.

What I love about this mashup is how practical it is. This is not theory for the sake of theory. These are real tools you can use to read faster, remember names, improve focus, make better decisions, and even communicate more effectively with the people around you. You will start to see why some people thrive in fast paced environments, why others excel at deep analysis, and why creativity, empathy, and logic all play different roles in how we store and retrieve information.

I truly believe that once you understand how your brain is designed to operate, you stop labeling yourself as broken or behind. You start seeing your mind as an asset that simply needs the right operating system. This episode will help you stop forcing strategies that do not fit you and start building memory, focus, and confidence in a way that feels natural and sustainable.

If you are serious about improving your performance, your learning, and your ability to show up at your best, this mashup will give you clarity and momentum. Your brain is capable of far more than you have been taught. It is time to unlock it.

Key Takeaways:


The four primary brain types and how each one processes information differently


Why forgetting information is often a strategy problem, not an intelligence problem


How stress, emotions, and identity directly impact memory and focus


Practical techniques to improve retention, recall, and learning speed


How to communicate and collaborate better by understanding other brain types


Why aligning your learning style with your brain wiring accelerates growth

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What if the key to healing your body, calming your mind, and extending your life has been inside you the whole time?

In this episode, I sit down with one of the most important scientists alive today, Dr. Kevin Tracey, and I do not say that lightly. Kevin is a neurosurgeon, neuroscientist, and the pioneer behind a discovery that could fundamentally change how we treat disease, mental health, and inflammation. I have wanted him on this show for a long time, and after this conversation, you will understand why. This is one of those episodes where you grab a notebook, because it will completely shift how you think about your body, your brain, and your health.

We break down the vagus nerve in plain English and why it may be the master regulator of inflammation, stress, trauma, and longevity. Kevin explains how chronic inflammation is linked to most of the diseases that shorten our lives and how the nervous system acts like the brakes that keep inflammation from spinning out of control. He walks us through the groundbreaking FDA approved therapy using vagus nerve stimulation that is already helping people with rheumatoid arthritis get out of wheelchairs, return to work, and reclaim their lives. And yes, he believes this is just the beginning.

We also go deep into the connection between childhood trauma, chronic stress, anxiety, and physical disease. Kevin explains how unhealed stress can leave a biological imprint on the nervous system for decades and how that imprint can quietly drive inflammation throughout the body. We talk about depression, anxiety, heart rate variability, and why your body may be stuck in fight or flight without you even realizing it. This is not theory. This is real science, explained in a way that actually makes sense.

Then we get practical. We talk about daily habits that cost nothing but can make a real difference. Breathing, prayer, meditation, cold exposure, exercise, sleep, and why doing hard things on purpose can build both mental resilience and physical health. Kevin is refreshingly honest about what science knows, what it does not know yet, and what questions we should be asking next. That humility is exactly why I trust his work.

This conversation left me fired up, hopeful, and honestly in awe of what is coming next in medicine. If you care about your health, your performance, your longevity, or understanding how your mind and body truly work together, this is a must listen. And do yourself a favor and grab his book The Great Nerve. There is not a wasted page.

Key Takeaways


Why inflammation is at the root of most chronic disease and how the nervous system controls it


How the vagus nerve acts as the brake pedal for stress, trauma, and inflammation


The revolutionary FDA approved vagus nerve therapy already changing lives


How childhood stress can biologically shape your health decades later


Simple daily practices that may help calm your nervous system and improve wellbeing

If you want to understand the future of health and how to take control of your body from the inside out, this episode will open your eyes. Share this one with someone you love.
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