The School of Greatness

The thing you want most might be closer than you think, and the expectations you keep gripping could be what keeps pushing it away.
Lewis goes solo in this episode to walk through five expectations that block money, love and your peace. He starts with the silent contract so many hard workers carry: I did this, so I’m owed that.
He tells you about making zero dollars from his podcast for the first year, and about sleeping on his sister’s couch when a mentor told him, “Money comes to you when you’re ready for it.” He also explains why he asked his wife Martha to start therapy at the very beginning of their relationship, and how she answered, “That sounds exciting.”
You’ll hear why comparing your year one to someone else’s year ten will wreck your peace, and why a simple “Would you be willing to...” can fix relationships that silent hints keep breaking. There’s also the goal he has chased for eight years without hitting it, and what changed once he stopped demanding a timeline for it.
Afterward you may find yourself writing down your own silent contracts and checking the numbers less. You might ask someone for what you actually need, too, while you keep doing the work and keep your standard high.
Make Money Easy
The School of Greatness
The Greatness Mindset
The Mask of Masculinity
In this episode you will:
Run the silent contracts exercise to expose the hidden “I’m owed” thoughts ending relationships
Replace expectations with the “Would you be willing to” ask so people choose yes
Drop made-up timelines that make real progress still feel like falling behind
Track your daily effort instead of the numbers to escape comparison and resentment
Release neediness so the opportunities and people you want can finally find you
For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1998
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The trauma you never healed is running your relationships and your work.
Robin Sharma, author of The Everyday Hero Manifesto, tells Lewis about the day ten years of his private journals vanished from a cupboard, along with every fear and heartbreak he had written in them. What he took from losing them was the ability to let go.
He walks through a tool he calls AFRA: the moment you get triggered, you find the feeling in your body and ask what old wound just woke up. "If it's hysterical, it's historical," he says. The bigger the overreaction, the bigger the thing that was already there.
Robin admits he used to be drawn to partners who created a crisis whenever things got peaceful, and he owns his part in that. He also passes on a divorce lawyer's test for a relationship: can you enjoy 10,000 dinners with this person?
You'll hear his eight forms of wealth, of which money is only one, and his five great hours rule for productivity.
The Wealth Money Can't Buy: The 8 Hidden Habits to Live Your Richest Life
The Everyday Hero Manifesto: Activate Your Positivity, Maximize Your Productivity, Serve The World
The 5AM Club: Own Your Morning. Elevate Your Life.
Little Black Book for Stunning Success+ Tools for Action Master
The Mastery Manual
Robin's Instagram
Robin's Facebook
Robin's YouTube
In this episode you will:
Discover why Robin Sharma says losing ten years of private journals taught him how to let go
Dissolve the field of hurt that keeps old emotional wounds running your daily behavior
Trade the chase for fame, fortune and applause (FFA) for joy, peace and freedom (JPF)
Make the leap from victim to hero by behaving your way into a new way of thinking
Recognize the seasons meant for rest and spiritual growth so self-doubt stops derailing you
Build a life of service that puts family and craft ahead of applause
For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1997
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What if the dark stretch you're in right now is proof your faith is about to pay off?
Katt Williams, a comedian with 14 stand-up specials, sat down with Lewis to talk about leaving home at 13 and the moment around age 20 when drug dealing could turn $100 into $700. He asked God for another way to make a living, and comedy showed up.
Door-to-door sales taught him that 300 no's buy 30 yeses, and he still tells a joke to himself 35 times in the mirror before any audience hears it. To him the crowd is never wrong, so every silence is feedback he can use.
His years as a teenage missionary in Haiti come up too, where he watched starving families choose joy and pride. His memoir, “Nine Lives, No Wives, and 69 Concubines,” lays out his whole life so you can decide for yourself whether any of it was luck. His new podcast, According 2 Katt, is on the way to Netflix.
You'll come away treating rejection as information and seeing every hurdle as a chance to jump higher.
Nine Lives, No Wives, and 69 Concubines
Katt's Instagram
Katt's Facebook
In this episode you will:
Discover how Katt Williams walked away from a $700 drug hustle by asking God for another path
Treat every rejection as feedback so your self-worth never hinges on a yes
Trust that your darkest season has a limit before the light breaks through
Reframe obstacles like a hurdler who sees each one as a chance to jump higher
Welcome opposition as proof you are on the right path
For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1996
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People with psychopathy still feel, just differently from everyone around them.
Dr. Patric Gagne, a diagnosed sociopath who went on to earn a doctorate and work as a therapist, sat down with Lewis and told the story she tells in Sociopath: A Memoir. As a kid she learned that saying “I don't care” out loud got her in trouble, so she lied, and lying made her feel safe.
She talks about the pressure she called a vice, which she relieved by breaking into homes just to sit in the quiet, and the first grade day she stabbed a classmate with a pencil. Then she explains why secondary psychopathy, which may touch 5% of people, is treatable when kids get caught early.
You will hear why a therapist who doesn't absorb your pain can be the best container for it, and why stopping someone from crying can stop the brain from healing. She also gets into the shame under people pleasing and narcissism, and the question she asks her own kids: how does it feel when you feel?
You may come away a little gentler with the people you never understood, and with the kid you used to be.
Sociopath: A Memoir
Dr. Patric's Instagram
Dr. Patric's Website
The Society for the Prevention of Disorders of Aggression
In this episode you will:
Become a calm container for someone's pain without needing to empathize
Raise emotionally aware kids through boundaries, apologies and positive reinforcement instead of punishment
Learn why awareness is 80% of the work in changing destructive patterns
Discover why psychopaths can feel emotion and what actually separates them from everyone else
Spot the warning signs of sociopathy in dating, relationships and business partnerships
Break free from people pleasing by choosing honesty over curated, falsified emotions
For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1995
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What if your anxiety is a smoke alarm, and your body is working perfectly?
Dr. John Delony, a mental health expert with two PhDs, sat down with Lewis and said the thing most of us dodge: if you are awake at 2:30 in the morning, something in your life is on fire. Numbing it with a drink or a screen is like duct taping a pillow over the alarm while the house burns around you.
Then he got personal. While he was writing Building a Non-Anxious Life, his wife walked into his basement gym and told him, “I'm watching my husband die,” and then, “John, we have enough.” His little girl would not hug him, and in counseling he could not put a fist to his chest and say “I love this guy.”
Back then he would have rated himself a zero out of ten on being enough. Now he says nine, and his daughter uses him as a jungle gym. He and Lewis also talk about why “me over us” hurts so many relationships and how paying off debt let him grieve a cousin without a single worry about money.
You'll finish this one wanting to put your phone down and ask what your own alarm has been trying to tell you about your marriage and your kids.
Building a Non-Anxious Life
Own Your Past Change Your Future: A Not-So-Complicated Approach to Relationships, Mental Health & Wellness
Redefining Anxiety: What It Is, What It Isn't, and How to Get Your Life Back
John's Instagram
John's YouTube
John's Facebook
In this episode you will:
Hear how Dr. John Delony went from 0/10 to 9/10 on believing he is enough
Use neuroception to understand why your kids pull away when you stop feeling safe to them
Discover why anxiety is a smoke alarm proving your body works perfectly, not a flaw to silence
Break the common male lie that your only value is your utility
Build an antifragile life where hard seasons bring grief without spiraling into anxiety
Replace rigid beliefs with shared values so your relationships choose us over me
For more information go to https://lewishowes.com/1994
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