The Erotic Realm

What if pleasure wasn’t the opposite of responsibility — but one of its foundations?
In this episode of I’m joined by Tanya Griffin — entrepreneur, sexual wellness and harm-reduction educator, and flow-state practitioner — to explore the psychology of pleasure, altered states, and embodied leadership.
In this episode, we explore:
Pleasure as a measure of freedom, not indulgence.
Flow states in sex, embodiment, and longevity.
Intention vs. compulsion in erotic and altered states.
Conscious use of cannabis and psychoactives in sexuality.
Shame reduction as harm reduction — in sex and substances.
Research article: Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience.
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What if brattiness wasn’t resistance — but discernment?
In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by AngelSnowflake, a collared submissive and self-described brat, to explore the psychology of chosen submission, erotic paradox, and identity that refuses simplification.
In this episode, we explore:
Why submission must be earned to be real.
Brattiness as emotional and relational literacy.
Fluid desire and refusing fixed erotic labels.
Collars as lived psychological commitments.
Parallels between kink, roleplay, and character formation.

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The Erotic Mind & Why These Moments Matter
In this fifth episode of an end-of-year series, we explore more deeply the concept of peak erotic experiences—those rare, unforgettable moments of desire that linger long after they end and quietly reshape how we understand ourselves.
Drawing on psychologist Jack Morin’s seminal work The Erotic Mind, this episode offers a psychological framework for understanding why certain erotic experiences feel transformative rather than merely pleasurable. Rather than focusing on acts, identities, or techniques, this series explores the inner architecture of desire: tension, risk, power, permission, and altered states of consciousness.
The excerpts you’ll hear across this series are not full stories or performances, but distilled moments—glimpses into how the erotic mind works at its most alive.
In this episode:
What defines a peak erotic experience.
Why orgasm or extremity alone don’t explain erotic intensity.
Jack Morin’s psychological insights into desire, tension, and risk.
How power, permission, and emotional exposure shape erotic experience.
5 peak erotic experiences share by The Erotic Realm podcast guests.

This episode is an invitation to listen slowly, psychologically, and with curiosity—not just to what is said, but to what shifts beneath it.
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Peak Erotic Experience 1: #33 The Lesbian Cuckcake: Iris on Poly Desire, Triad Love & Healing
Peak Erotic Experience 2: #34 Master Xtac: The 12 Rules of Power, Leather Tradition & BDSM as a Sexual Orientation
Peak Erotic Experience 3: #35 The Bisexual Switch: Sage on Embracing Both Sides of Power & Desire
Peak Erotic Experience 4: #36 The Disciplinarian Domme: MistressBaton on Spanking, Sadism & the Psychology of Pain
Peak Erotic Experience 5: #37 From Pro-Domme to Submissive: Valkyrie on Regression, ABDL & Self-Domination

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Can voice alone create intimacy, arousal, and emotional safety?
In this episode of The Erotic Realm, I’m joined by Call Me Phoenix — erotic audio creator, virtual companion, and switch — to explore the psychology of auditory erotics, voice-based desire, and intimacy without physical bodies.
We talk about phone sex, asexual audios, nervous-system regulation, and why sound can feel safer and sometimes more intimate than touch or sight. Drawing on psychological research into ASMR, this conversation reveals how voice can calm the body while simultaneously creating erotic arousal.
In this episode, we explore:
How voice creates intimacy differently from touch or visuals.
Erotic audio as self-soothing and nervous-system regulation.
Why some people feel more “seen” through listening than looking.
Auditory fetishism, auralism, and voice-based desire.
Desire, connection, and presence without physical contact.

Research article: The effects of autonomous sensory meridian response (ASMR) on mood, attention, heart rate, skin conductance and EEG in healthy young adults.
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What happens when we stop leaving desire to chance — and start setting intentions for it instead?
The powerful New Year ritual continues with this fourth and final instalment. Three real kinksters, (including the first couple!) step into the studio to openly share their erotic and kink intentions for the year ahead — what they want to explore, deepen, confront, or finally give themselves permission to desire.
And this is only the beginning.
Each of these guests will return at the end of the year so we can reflect on what actually shifted, what surprised them, and what happens when desire is treated as something we can consciously engage with, rather than wait on.
Because we set goals for our careers, relationships, bodies, and finances.
But when it comes to erotic desire, most of us were never taught how to set direction — only how to judge it, suppress it, or worry when it changes.
This episode explores why intentionality matters in erotic psychology, and how attention — not pressure — shapes desire over time.
In this episode:
Three kinksters (including the first couple!) share their real erotic goals for the year ahead.
Why desire responds to attention, not force.
Erotic intention-setting as psychological and relational self-leadership.

Plus: I introduce The Desire Diary — a psychological tool designed to help you track, understand, and work with your desire over time. Available now via this link or simply grab the Softcover here or Hardcover Here.
Set intentions for your own desire and follow this year-long erotic experiment alongside us!
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