On Purpose with Jay Shetty

If a breakup has ever left you feeling physically sick, emotionally lost, and not feeling like yourself, nothing is wrong with you. You’re grieving.
Today, Jay speaks directly to anyone navigating the quiet devastation of heartbreak, reminding them that nothing is “wrong” with them for feeling the way they do. He explains that breakups don’t just hurt emotionally, they activate the same neural pathways as physical pain and withdrawal. What you’re experiencing isn’t weakness or failure; it’s grief. Jay reframes the end of a relationship not simply as losing a person, but as losing a future you imagined, the routines your nervous system depended on, and the version of yourself that existed within that relationship.
Jay walks us through the five stages of breakup grief, showing how numbness is a form of protection, why the mind gets stuck in rumination after loss, and how anger can signal the return of self-respect. Rather than rushing to “move on,” he encourages simple practices like building small routines, writing down obsessive thoughts, setting boundaries, and resisting the highlight reel your mind creates that makes you only remember the good. The stages aren’t a straight line, but a map that helps you move through uncertainty with more grace and self-compassion.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Rebuild Your Routine After a Breakup
How to Break the Cycle of Rumination
How to Express Anger in a Healthy Way
How to Set Boundaries That Protect Your Healing
How to Move Through Sadness Without Rushing It
How to Create Meaning After Loss
Be gentle with yourself in this season. Lean on the people who show up for you. Rebuild your routines slowly. One day, this chapter will no longer be the center of your story, it will be the turning point that makes you wiser, stronger, and more secure in who you are.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:19 Biggest Mistake Made During a Break Up
02:34 You’re Actually Experiencing Grief
07:40 Stage #1: Shock and Denial
10:12 2 Ways to Overcome the Shock
12:58 Stage #2: Bargaining and Obsession
17:45 Stage #3: Anger and Protest
21:49 Stage #4: Sadness and Depression
24:33 Stage #5: Acceptance and Meaning
26:24 This is How You Heal
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For many women, the real challenge isn’t just unexplained health problems, it’s being heard when they seek help.
Jay sits down with Dr. Thaïs Aliabadi, or "Dr. A", to unpack a silent crisis affecting millions of women around the world: undiagnosed PCOS and endometriosis. This isn’t just a discussion about fertility, but a masterclass on hormones, inflammation, mental health, and the painful reality of medical gaslighting. PCOS, a condition shaped by insulin resistance, hormonal imbalance, chronic inflammation, and neurological disruption, is often overlooked, leaving women struggling with anxiety, depression, weight gain, irregular periods, and infertility without answers. Dr. A shares how insulin resistance acts as the “first domino,” triggering a domino effect that impacts everything from ovulation to mood, and emphasizes that true healing requires addressing all four pillars, not just masking symptoms with birth control.
Dr. A challenges the outdated belief that painful periods are “normal,” explaining that severe pain, painful sex, chronic bloating, bladder symptoms, and bowel discomfort are signs something deeper may be wrong. She reveals that diagnosis takes an average of 9–11 years, and that many women are told their pain is psychological before they’re ever taken seriously.
Through both science and lived clinical experience, she makes it clear: when inflammation and hormones are out of balance, mental health suffers too. Anxiety, depression, brain fog, and eating disorders are not personal failings, they are often physiological signals that something deeper is happening in the body.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Recognize the Signs of PCOS Early
How to Reduce Insulin Resistance Naturally
How to Tell if Your Period Pain Is “Normal”
How to Protect Your Fertility in Your 20s and 30s
How to Balance Hormones Beyond Birth Control
How to Spot Hidden Symptoms of Endometriosis
How to Lower Inflammation Through Lifestyle Changes
If there’s one thing to take away from this conversation, it’s this: your body is not working against you, it’s communicating with you. Pain is not weakness. It is a signal and you deserve to have those signals taken seriously.
To learn more about Dr. A’s advocacy on women’s health, check out: https://www.shemdpodcast.com/
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
02:58 Are We Facing a Fertility Crisis?
03:58 What Is PCOS?
07:13 Why PCOS Often Goes Undiagnosed
09:15 The Impact of Insulin Resistance
15:06 Making PCOS Patients Insulin-Sensitive
19:37 The Nutritional Effects of GLP-1 Medications
22:14 High Androgens and Chronic Inflammation
25:39 How Hormonal Imbalances Affect the Brain
29:25 Why Birth Control Alone Isn’t Enough
31:23 How to Know If You Have PCOS
35:01 Painful Periods Are Not Normal
36:47 What Is Endometriosis?
46:07 The Most Effective Treatment Approach for Endometriosis
49:20 The Risks of Ignoring Endometriosis
53:09 How to Use Birth Control Strategically
56:04 What to Do If Egg Freezing Isn’t an Option
57:53 The Link Between Endometriosis and Leaky Gut
01:00:33 Potential IVF Complications Explained
01:04:38 A Scientific Approach to Infertility
01:10:01 What to Do If You’re Not Getting Pregnant
Episode Resources:
Website: https://ovii.com/
Website: https://www.draliabadi.com/
YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrej0PO97bg8GRMogtcKbbA
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThaisAliabadiMd
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drthaisaliabadi/
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Today, Jay sits down with cultural icon Hilary Duff for a raw and honest conversation about growth, identity, and the quiet courage it takes to evolve in public. Having grown up alongside an entire generation, Hilary reflects on what it means to return to music after more than a decade with her sixth studio album, Luck or Something. She opens up about shedding politeness in favor of truth, embracing maturity without losing the joy of her past, and finally feeling rooted in who she is, not just as an artist, but as a woman, a mother, a partner, and a daughter.
Jay and Hilary explore the hidden weight of fame, the loss of anonymity at a young age, and the resilience required to stay grounded in an industry that constantly defines you before you can define yourself. Hilary speaks vulnerably about navigating eating disorders, divorce, co-parenting, estrangement with family, and the reality of loving people through complicated relationships. Through it all, she shares how motherhood reshaped her priorities, how love taught her to accept stability over chaos, and how creativity became a necessary way of reconnecting with herself. Hilary’s reflections reveal a powerful truth: what the world often calls luck is usually years of quiet strength, hard choices, and inner work.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Trust Your Intuition Over “Luck”
How to Grow Without Rejecting Your Past
How to Accept Healthy Love (Even When It Feels Unfamiliar)
How to Break Family Patterns Without Losing Compassion
How to Balance Motherhood and Personal Ambition
How to Hold Joy and Pain at the Same Time
How to Reinvent Yourself Without Losing Who You Are
You are allowed to choose steadiness over chaos, truth over politeness, and peace over performance. Growth isn’t always loud, sometimes it’s simply deciding you don’t want to repeat the same pattern again.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:04 The Joy of Being Celebrated
02:46 Choosing Truth Over Politeness
05:15 What’s a Childhood Memory That Keeps You Grounded?
06:56 The Truth About Growing Up in the Public Eye
11:38 Learning to Feel at Home in Your Own Skin
14:22 Where Real Confidence Comes From
19:08 Opening Your Heart to Love Again
21:28 Understanding the Weight of Marriage
25:03 Deciding to Fully Commit
26:24 Trusting Your Intuition
27:28 Owning the Work Behind Your Success
30:36 The Burden of Being the Family Peacemaker
36:18 Navigating Divorce with Intention
38:26 Sharing Your Story on Your Terms
43:50 Holding Joy and Hardship at the Same Time
46:44 Healing and Connecting Through Music
51:49 The Hilary Duff Renaissance
54:50 Staying Attuned to Your Children’s Needs
01:00:59 Building Confidence as a Parent
01:02:26 How Did You Name Your Kids?
01:04:27 Disney-Era “Would You Rather”
01:08:42 Hilary on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Website | https://www.hilaryduff.com/
YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSRmCrFvCPomTqjzwoF9MGw
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/HilaryDuff/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/hilaryduff/
TikTok | https://x.com/hilaryduff
X | https://x.com/hilaryduff
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So many of us wake up and immediately feel behind. We reach for our phones, scroll through other people’s lives, and start reacting before we’ve even chosen how we want to feel.
Today, Jay shares a powerful truth: the first 60 to 90 minutes after you wake up are the most programmable moments of your day. Your brain is in a unique, highly impressionable state and instead of using that window intentionally, most of us give it away.
Jay breaks down six simple, science-backed habits that can transform your mornings without extreme routines or unrealistic expectations. He explains why hitting snooze actually makes you more tired, how morning sunlight boosts your energy and improves your sleep later that night, and how just 60 to 90 seconds of cold water can build stress resilience. He also shares the benefits of seven minutes of movement, a short handwritten journaling practice to clear mental clutter, and why delaying your phone for the first hour protects your focus and emotional baseline.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Stop Hitting Snooze for Good
How to Reset Your Nervous System in 90 Seconds
How to Activate Your Brain in 7 Minutes
How to Increase Focus Before 8AM
How to Protect Your First Hour from Distractions
How to Reprogram Your Mind Before the Day Begins
Start with one habit. Let it be simple. Let it be sustainable. Because when you protect your mornings, you strengthen your mindset. And when you strengthen your mindset, you change the direction of your days and eventually, your life.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
00:13 Here's Something Nobody Tells You About Your Morning
02:09 Step #1: Stop Hitting the Snooze Button
06:01 Step #2: Sunlight in Your Eyes
09:35 Step #3: The 90-Second Cold Shower
12:59 Step #4: Move for 7 Minutes not 60
16:10 Step #5: The Brain Dump Journal
19:56 Step #6: Delay Phone Scrolling in the First Hour
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Today, Jay sits down with Benny Blanco, Dave Burd, and Kristin Batalucco for a first-of-its-kind conversation - three best friends building something together in real time. They talk about what that really looks like: how friendship changes when work gets involved, how marriage fits into ambition, where insecurity still shows up, and how messy it can be to create with people you genuinely love. Dave and Kristin tell the story of meeting at a bowling alley and how they almost got in their own way at the beginning. Benny opens up about what it was like to chase success for years and what shifted when he realized it wasn’t giving him what he thought it would. It’s funny, and honest, and gives you a real sense of who they are with each other, not just as collaborators, but as friends figuring life out together.
With Jay's guidance they open up about commitment anxiety, the courage it takes to be emotionally direct, and the power of choosing your partner not playing games, not waiting to be chosen, but stepping forward with clarity. Kristen shares what it means to battle self-doubt while stepping into the public eye. Dave opens up about perfectionism and the tension between ambition and contentment. Benny reflects on how success once held him in a chokehold and how love reshaped his priorities. Together, they reveal that the healthiest relationships aren’t built on avoiding conflict, but on being able to argue passionately and return to love just as quickly.
In this interview, you'll learn:
How to Be Honest About What You Want in Love
How to Stop Playing Dating Games
How to Turn Conflict Into Deeper Connection
How to Support Your Partner’s Ambition Without Competing
How to Work With Friends Without Ruining the Friendship
How to Fall in Love With New Versions of Your Partner
The strongest connections aren’t built by people who never argue, they’re built by people who know how to come back to each other after they do. Keep choosing openness. Keep choosing courage. Keep choosing each other.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:03 How Their Friendship Began
07:05 Dave and Kristin’s Love Story
11:37 From Dating to Marriage
18:39 When Friendship Grows With Marriage
20:19 Getting Married a Month Apart
28:05 Loving Every Version of Each Other
30:35 Launching a Show Together
35:12 The Loneliness Epidemic
39:07 Working With Family and Friends
42:13 How They Make Big Decisions
45:27 Pre-Show Nerves and Bathroom Confessions
48:18 Do They Believe in Astrology?
51:10 Friends Don’t Keep Secrets
01:13:28 Separating Work From Your Relationship
01:20:00 Do You Talk About Me When I Leave the Room?
01:23:37 If I Died, Would You Still Hang Out?
Episode Resources:
Website | https://www.friendskeepsecretspodcast.com/
YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@friendskeepsecrets
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/FriendsKeepSecrets
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/friendskeepsecrets
TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@friendskeepsecrets
X | https://x.com/FKSpodcast
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