On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Some relationships leave us questioning whether love is enough to stay. In this conversation, Jay sits down with Dr. Ramani to explore the painful reality of family estrangement and the growing number of people considering no contact with those closest to them. Together, they unpack the difference between self-protection and punishment, why guilt often accompanies healthy boundaries, and how years of unresolved hurt can lead someone to step away from a relationship they once fought hard to save.
Rather than offering simple answers, this episode invites a deeper reflection on safety, repair, accountability, and healing. It challenges the belief that family ties should come at the expense of your well-being and reminds us that choosing yourself is rarely easy. Whether you're navigating a difficult relationship, supporting someone who is, or trying to understand a loved one's decision, this conversation offers compassion, clarity, and the reassurance that healing doesn't always look the way we expect.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Know When No Contact Is Necessary
How to Stop Abandoning Yourself for Family
How to Recognize When Repair Isn’t Working
How to Handle Guilt After Going No Contact
How to Protect Your Peace Around Toxic Relatives
How to Navigate Family Pressure and Backlash
How to Choose Self-Protection Over Self-Betrayal
Not every relationship is meant to be kept at the cost of your peace. Sometimes healing means repairing a connection, and sometimes it means creating distance from what continues to hurt you.
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Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:29 What Does Going No Contact Really Mean?
06:24 When No Contact Becomes Your Only Option
08:10 Can a Broken Relationship Be Repaired?
11:40 The Most Common Reasons People Go No Contact
14:48 It's Not the Mistake, It's the Repair
17:01 Pay Attention to Your Why
21:58 Detaching from a Harmful Relationship
26:29 You Have to Do What Feels Right for You
30:12 When Family Requires Self-Abandonment
35:37 The Weight of Internal Shame
36:44 The Hidden Cost of Always Keeping the Peace
42:26 When Someone Cuts You Off Without Explanation
44:13 When Is It Time to Cut Off Contact?
48:01 But They're Family...
53:16 Building Your Chosen Family
55:05 No Contact vs. A Falling Out
55:54 The Silent Treatment Is a Form of Emotional Aggression
58:01 Are We Getting Worse at Repairing Relationships?
01:02:38 The Relief of Finally Deciding to Go No Contact
01:04:09 How to Repair a Relationship After Being Cut Off
01:05:37 Forgiveness Isn't Always Healthy
01:08:26 The Challenges of Trying to Heal Trauma
01:11:29 Why Some Parents Don't Understand Estrangement
01:13:13 Handling Family Backlash After Going No Contact
01:15:12 When a Parent Is Both Supportive and Harmful
01:17:54 When Breaking No Contact Is Worth Considering
01:19:26 Can a Narcissistic Parent Change?
01:22:16 Should You Invite an Estranged Family Member to Your Wedding?
Episode Resources:
Website | https://doctor-ramani.com/
YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@DoctorRamani
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/doctorramani
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/doctorramani/
LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/in/ramani-durvasula-4132067
TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorramani
X | https://x.com/DoctorRamani
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On Melissa Wood’s show, Jay opens up about the practices and perspectives that keep him grounded in a world that rarely slows down. Their conversation moves beyond routines and rituals, diving into what it really means to find peace within yourself while navigating pressure, ambition, relationships, and everyday chaos. Together, they explore how stillness is built through self-awareness, presence, and the courage to listen to your inner voice.
Jay shares lessons from his upbringing, life as a monk, and marriage, while Melissa reflects on healing, motherhood, and breaking old patterns. From meditation and breathwork to love and emotional growth, this conversation is a reminder that the smallest daily choices often shape the deepest transformation.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Listen to Your Inner Voice
How to Stay Grounded Under Pressure
How to Stop Feeding Negative Thoughts
How to Build Stillness Within Yourself
How to Create Healthier Relationships
How to Reconnect With Yourself Daily
How to Stop Trying to Change Your Partner
No matter where you are in your journey, there is still space for healing, clarity, love, and change. Keep showing up for yourself. Keep planting the seeds that align with the life you truly want.
The Move With Heart podcast features Melissa Wood-Tepperberg's personal stories, triumphs, philosophies as well as those of her mentors who will join the show to share their wisdom. Check out https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/move-with-heart/id1621097400
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
05:41 How To Build Inner Peace
08:13 Lessons From a Hardworking Mother
11:36 Learning to Be Still
18:47 Your Mind Comes First
21:46 Are You Planting Seeds or Weeds?
27:24 The Fear of Making the Wrong Choice
31:28 Finding Calm in the Chaos
36:40 Jay’s 3 Daily Meditation Practices
43:26 Aligning Your Mind and Body
51:53 The Power of Mantra Meditation
54:28 Trusting the Bigger Plan
59:32 What Is Your Deepest Desire?
01:03:47 Staying Connected in Long-Term Love
01:09:14 Inspire Your Partner Without Changing Them
Episode Resources:
Website | https://mwh-production.melissawoodhealth.com/
YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCd-M8iMVPXC9qE-4s8B9law
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/melissawoodhealth/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/melissawoodtepperberg/
TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@melissawoodhealth
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The inner critic doesn't just disappear with more success.
Academy Award-winning actor, writer, and artist Riz Ahmed shares why success, recognition, and achievement can never replace self-worth. He opens up about identity, shame, the inner critic, and the pressure to perform, revealing how life can start to feel like one long audition when your value depends on other people’s approval.
Through a deeply personal health crisis and years of chasing validation, Riz discovered the power of vulnerability, gratitude, and self-acceptance. This conversation is a powerful reminder that true freedom begins when you stop proving yourself to the world and start defining your worth for yourself.
In this episode you'll learn:
How to Stop Seeking Constant Validation
How to Quiet Your Inner Critic
How to Find Flow Instead of Chasing Success
How to Let Go of Who Others Expect You to Be
How to Stay Grounded Through Life’s Highs and Lows
How to Build Self-Worth Beyond Achievement
How to Find Freedom in Vulnerability
How to Live More Fully in the Present Moment
Growth isn’t about becoming someone else; it’s about having the courage to be fully yourself. Keep showing up, keep learning, and trust that who you are is already enough.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:33 Rooting for Others Without Comparison
04:01 The Danger of Seeking External Validation
07:02 A Childhood Memory That Shaped Everything
11:42 The Secret to Finding Flow
18:29 Life Feels Like One Big Audition
22:31 The Gap Between Who You Are and Who You Present
25:05 Finding Freedom in the Imperfection
27:49 One Story Does Not Define You
32:07 When Life Falls Apart Overnight
39:15 Facing Your Darkest Moments Alone
46:44 Breaking Free from the Alpha Male Myth
50:08 When Your Inner Critic Becomes Your Identity
52:56 Managing the Voice Inside Your Head
56:21 Why Does Time Go By Faster as We Grow Older?
58:42 Home Is the People You Love
01:01:55 Setting Boundaries to Protect Your Creativity
01:04:29 Finding Where You Truly Belong
01:10:04 Growing Up in Northwest London
01:12:32 Riz on Final Five
Episode Resources:
YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/rizahmed
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/RizAhmed/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/rizahmed
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Many of us feel pressured to keep up with timelines, expectations, and the highlight reels we see online, but this conversation offers a different perspective. Coral Santoro shares how success is less about reaching a destination and more about who you become through resilience, patience, and self-belief. From navigating failure and uncertainty to building meaningful relationships and staying true to your vision, she reminds us that there is no universal timeline for achievement. This episode is a powerful reflection on purpose, courage, and the importance of continuing to build your life, even when progress is quiet, slow, and unseen.
In this episode, you'll learn:
How to Stop Comparing Your Timeline to Others
How to Keep Going When It Stops Being Exciting
How to Turn Failure Into Useful Data
How to Stay Patient While Chasing Big Goals
How to Find Success in the Boring Work
How to Surround Yourself With Supportive People
How to Communicate Better in Relationships and Business
How to Keep Building Even When No One Believes in You
Every challenge, setback, and uncertain moment is shaping you into someone stronger, wiser, and more resilient. Keep showing up, keep learning, and keep building. The life you want is not created in a single breakthrough, it’s built through the small, consistent choices you make every day.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:32 Why You’re Not Falling Behind
03:25 How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
08:35 The 3 Traits That Drive Success
13:19 The Secret to Staying Patient
16:50 Focus on Your Own Path
26:37 Building the Right Circle Around You
29:32 Finding Beauty in Life’s Quiet Moments
36:59 Simple Ways to Train Your Brain for Success
42:41 Hearing More, Listening Less
45:22 This or That: Entrepreneurial Mindsets
50:59 How to Grow a Social Media Following
54:41 The Power of Choosing the Right Partner
01:03:36 Why Great Communication Changes Everything
01:07:57 Coral on Final Five
Episode Resources:
Website | https://www.coralsantorogroup.com/
YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC8WGOzdnEcNaYioYrP132Gg
Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/p/Coral-Santoro-61570173779394/
Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/coralsantoro/
LinkedIn | https://www.linkedin.com/company/coralsantoroventuresinc
TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@coral.santoro
X | https://x.com/coralsantoroo
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Jay taps into the question so many people quietly carry: “Is this really what I’m meant to do?” With honesty and clarity, he challenges the myths we’ve been taught about purpose, that it’s a single calling, that passion comes first, or that clarity arrives before action. Instead, Jay reframes purpose as something you build through curiosity, experimentation, and small, consistent steps. He reminds us that most people aren’t lost, they’re avoiding what they already know because of what it might cost.
Jay offers a practical framework for finding direction. He points to the things that come naturally, what deeply moves or frustrates you, the challenges you’ve lived through, and even who you envy as signals worth paying attention to. These aren’t random, they’re clues guiding you toward the work that’s truly aligned with you. The message is simple but powerful: stop waiting for certainty, start moving, and trust that clarity comes through action.
In this episode you'll find:
How to Find Your Purpose
How to Turn Passion Into Purpose
How to Start Before You’re Ready
How to Overcome Fear of Failure
How to Build Confidence Through Action
How to Become More Yourself
The quiet ideas you keep returning to, the things that light something up inside you, the dreams you keep pushing aside, they matter for a reason. Start where you are, with what you have, and trust that clarity often comes after action, not before it.
With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty
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00:00 Intro
01:21 The Biggest Lie About “Following Your Passion”
02:20 The Myth of Having One True Calling
03:25 Why You Won’t Feel Certain When You Find It
04:06 Your Purpose Doesn’t Have to Be Your Job
05:36 4 Real Places to Look for Your Purpose
11:02 4 Hidden Obstacles That Keep You Stuck
14:50 Stop Trying to “Find” Your Purpose — Start Testing It
16:25 The 1% Rule That Changes Your Direction
17:44 Stop Talking About It, Start Doing the Work
18:43 Your Environment Shapes Your Future
19:39 Discomfort Means You’re on the Right Path
20:27 The One Action to Take in the Next 48 Hours
22:26 The 3 Paths That Lead You to Purpose
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