307: Why Intimacy Feels SO Good With the WRONG People – Shan Boodram
Why do we sometimes get ghosted or friend-zoned after intimacy? How can we navigate mismatched libidos, steer clear of toxic intimacy the wrong people, or keep the spark alive in long-term relationships? In this episode, Matthew and Audrey sit down with Shan Boodram, a certified sex educator and relationship expert with an M.S. in psychology, for a candid conversation about sex, intimacy, and the unspoken dynamics that shape our love lives. Topics covered: • Why sex doesn’t always lead to commitment. • How to confidently communicate your boundaries and desires. • The psychology behind mismatched libidos and how to address them. • Why toxic relationships can feel so good (and how to break the cycle). • Tips for reigniting passion in long-term relationships. Resources mentioned: >>Don’t sweat summer nights. Cozy Earth’s ultra-soft, cooling sheets turn summer sleep into pure comfort. Get 40% off with code LOVELIFE – cozyearth.com >> Access Shan Boodram’s resources (including the free quiz she mentioned in this episode) – loversbyshan.com >>Try Matthew AI (and ask any relationship question for free) – AskMH.com
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(Matt Monday): How to Break the Cycle & STOP Chasing the WRONG Person
Why do we keep crashing into the same walls in love? In this conversation with Chris Williamson on his Modern Wisdom podcast, we explore the patterns that keep us stuck—whether it’s chasing unavailable partners, mistaking chaos for passion, or repeating cycles that leave us unfulfilled. We also talk about why these behaviors feel so familiar and how they’re often rooted in our past experiences rather than our actual desires. But here’s the good news: Breaking free is possible. And in this episode, you’ll learn how to rewire your instincts and create a new reality where peace and connection replace anxiety and uncertainty. -- ►► Plan big, stay focused, and see your year at a glance with the Big A## Calendar. Use code LOVELIFE for 10% off at thebigasscalendar.com/discount/LOVELIFE ►► Grab your in-person or virtual ticket to the Weekend Retreat: MHRetreat.com ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com
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(Rewind): How to Make Them See You as More Than Just a Hookup
So you slept with a guy. It was good. But now you wake up and have that awkward moment... what now? And how do you keep him attracted afterwards? People tend to get a little awkward in dating after “getting physical” for the first time. I get it. You want to play it cool, but you also make sure this guy knows you’re interested. So here are 3 killer techniques that will make him desperate to see you again... -- ►► Up to $500 Off – Grab your in-person or virtual discounted ticket to the Weekend Retreat before prices go up after Friday, July 25, at midnight PT: RetreatAccess.com ►► Limited-Time Confidence Challenge Replay (which includes a special offer): MHReplay.com ►► Join the Love Life Club: JoinLoveLife.com
How do you know if it’s love or obsession? What does it mean when you can’t stop thinking about someone who doesn’t return your feelings? In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey talk about the phenomenon of limerence, how it can leave you always clinging to hope in dating, and strategies to get yourself out of a one-sided attraction. Topics include: The psychology of limerence and how it arises. How we become blinded by obsession and stop seeing the reality in front of our eyes. The 2 most dangerous emotions that keep us hooked. The difference between limerence and a crush. How to escape the trap of obsession and find healthy love. Links See your year at a glance with the Big A## Calendar—your key to staying organized and intentional. Get 10% off with code LOVELIFE at thebigasscalendar.com/discount/LOVELIFE Join Matthew’s 30-Day Confidence Challenge – MHChallenge.com Try Matthew AI (ask any relationship question) – AskMH.com
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(Rewind): How to Keep Them Thinking About You Early On
You know those tricky early dates? You go for drinks. Maybe a picnic. You pretend you listen to cool music and hope you both enjoy similar taste in movies. Then texting. Then maybe a kiss. (Why not? He’s cute.) Uh-oh, now you actually like him. Crap. Err, I mean, great. Now what? If you really want to know how to keep him interested well after the first date, so you can finally stop freaking out whenever you realize you like a guy, this is the epsidoe for you... -- ►► Discover What the Most Confident Version of You Can Really Do. Join My FREE 30 Day Confidence Challenge. It All Starts on July 15th with a LIVE Coaching Session Sign Up Now at. . → http://www.MHChallenge.com ►► Want Your # 1 Dating Problem Solved Personally? Ask Matthew AI Your First Question Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► Order My New Book, "Love Life" at → http://www.LoveLifeBook.com ►► Transform Your Relationship With Life in One Powerful Weekend. Learn More About my Weekend Retreat at → http://www.MHWeekendRetreat.com
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