The Motivation Mindset with Risa Williams

In this special episode, Risa Williams is joined by Erica Curtis and Darrin Kagele to talk about ways to make the upcoming season feel Festive, Not Frantic! So often, the stretch between October and December can feel stressful and chaotic to experience, when most of us are trying to find the fun of being with family and loved ones instead. So, what can we do to navigate it in an easier way?

They discuss:
-Simple ways to pause, reset, and reflect upon what it is you want during this time period
-Practicing cognitive flexibility during the holidays to become more clear about what you and your family actually needs
-Learning to practice saying no to things you don't have the capacity for this season
-An easy way to use mantras as a way to remind yourself of what's important
Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapy
Guests: Erica Curtis, therapywitherica.com, Darrin Kagele, darrinkagele.com

***Upcoming Fall Events:
10/23 Risa will be returning to The Huddle at Google Visitor Experience in Mountain View to do a "Find Your Creative Spark Workshop" with Mike Sonksen 
It's a free family workshop - reserve your spot here: https://rsvp.withgoogle.com/events/find-your-creative-spark-a-family-workshop-with-risa-wiliams-and-mike-sonksen ***
Support the show
For info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.

*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

How do perfectionism tendencies tend to affect our close relationships? How does our own critical self-talk sometimes accidentally spill out onto other people around us? Risa Williams talks to Stephanie Van Schaick about how we can start to notice where we're getting stuck in perfectionistic tendencies in our relationships and how we can develop more cognitive flexibility instead.

They discuss:
-How our perfectionistic "concepts" of what relationships "should be like" sometimes holds us back from seeing the good that's there
-How our own internal self-talk can unintentionally spill out onto others
-A few simple questions you can ask yourself when you're getting stuck in 
"perfectionistic thinking"

***Upcoming Fall Events:
9/14 Risa is speaking at The Whole Wellness Mamas Summit, get a free ticket!
9/20 Risa and Erica will be at the Orange County Children's Book Festival and will be doing a live reading of Max and the Imaginary Tree at 12:45 PM! Free stuff for kids!
10/13 Risa is speaking at the Rockstar Mom Summit on Sneaky Procrastinations
10/23 Risa will be returning to The Huddle at Google Visitor Experience in Mountain View to do a "Find Your Creative Spark Workshop" with Mike Sonksen 
Get free tickets to all events here: https://bio.site/risawilliams or at risawilliams.com ***
Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapy
Guest: Stephanie Van Schaick, stateofbalancementalhealthcounseling.com, @stateofbalanceforlife
Support the show
For info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.

*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

What’s a sustainable pace that you can maintain for any given project? Risa Williams and guest co-host, Stevon Lewis, talk about finding your own unique pace and accepting your own way of making progress on things. How can we figure out what pace and style works best for us? And how can we better support ourselves during all the phases of progress we go through?
They discuss:
Factoring in the “unpleasant” parts of any task ahead 
Learning your own style and how you operate so you can work in a way that works best for your brain and body 
Finding a sustainable pace you can maintain over time 
How to accept your own unique way of making progress
How thinking about predictable problems ahead can help you feel more optimistic and aligned with your goals
***Upcoming Fall Events:
9/14 Risa is speaking at The Whole Wellness Mamas Summit, get a free ticket!
9/20 Risa and Erica will be at the Orange County Children's Book Festival and will be doing a live reading of Max and the Imaginary Tree at 12:45 PM! Free stuff for kids!
10/13 Risa is speaking at the Rockstar Mom Summit on Sneaky Procrastinations
10/23 Risa will be returning to The Huddle at Google Visitor Experience in Mountain View to do a "Find Your Creative Spark Workshop" with Mike Sonksen 
Get free tickets to all events here: https://bio.site/risawilliams or at risawilliams.com ***
Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com
Guest Co-Host: Stevon Lewis, stevonlewis.com

Support the show
For info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.

*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

When you make an everyday mistake, do you tend to beat yourself up unnecessarily and for too long afterwards? Do you tend to view yourself overly harshly if you don't do something "perfectly" or "the right way"? Risa Williams talks to therapist Stephanie Van Schaick about "making mistakes" and some simple mindset shifts to ease us out of harsh perfectionistic thinking when we're feeling stuck.
They discuss:
-How being "perfect" can sometimes get mixed into our identity which causes us to overreact when everyday mistakes happen
-Learning to use the "five year rule" when viewing what's happened
-Collecting data instead of assumptions
-Strengthening our sense of humor to pull us out of overly harsh self-talk

Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapy
Guest: Stephanie Van Schaick, stateofbalancementalhealthcounseling.com, @stateofbalanceforlife
Support the show
For info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.

*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.

How can people use dating apps in a more mindful and intentional way? Risa Williams talks with DBT expert Dr. Marcus Rodriguez about how Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) and mindfulness skills can help you approach dating apps with greater self-awareness, confidence, and intention. Instead of getting swept up in the emotional highs and lows of swiping, learn how to stay connected to how you want to feel and what you're actually looking for in romantic relationships.
In this episode, they discuss:
- Why dating apps aren't always designed to lead people to long term relationships
- How your emotional state can shape your experience while using dating apps
-Using mindfulness to notice your thoughts, emotions, and physical reactions as you swipe and interact with matches
-How the DBT skill of Opposite Action can help you act in alignment with your dating intentions
-Why curiosity, asking thoughtful questions, and looking for what's genuinely likable in another person can help you build stronger connections 
Whether you're new to online dating or feeling burned out by it, this conversation offers practical tools for dating with intention.

Host: Risa Williams, risawilliams.com, @risawilliamstherapy
Guest: Dr. Marcus Rodriguez, youthandfamilyinstitute.com, @drmarcusrodriguez

Support the show
For info on books, workshops, guests, and future episodes, please visit: risawilliams.com.

*All tools discussed on the show are meant for educational purposes only and not as a replacement for therapy or medical advice.