Emotionally Intelligent Parenting with Stephanie Pinto

This one’s an eye-opener. An 11-year-old boy is suspended from school for bullying. His parent is devastated, confused, and in shock.

They turned to my parenting community online for help and ask a question so many parents would ask in that moment: “Besides taking away electronics, what else can I do?” What followed was a flood of responses.

Some were deeply supportive, insightful, and grounded in emotional intelligence. Others were confronting, punitive, and honestly… alarming.

So today in this episode I unpack that post from my Facebook community, Let’s Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids, and the huge range of responses it received.

I talk about:
Why punishment feels like the obvious answer, but often misses the mark
What bullying behaviour is really telling us about a child
How shame-based consequences ALWAYS backfire
The big (and hugely important) difference between accountability and punishment
What emotionally intelligent parents focus on instead
How to support a child who has caused harm without excusing the behaviour

This is not about “letting kids off the hook.” And it’s definitely not about ignoring the impact on the other child.

It’s about teaching responsibility, empathy, and change in a way that actually sticks.

If you’ve ever thought, “What if this was my child?” or “How would I even handle that?” This episode is for you. Enjoy.

🎁 Want to get my book From Chaos To Connection FOR FREE? This month you can get it at no cost when you get my How to Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids online course, which is also 50% off!! The only place to access it is here and use code 2026JANSALE.

📚 Find my book on Amazon here!

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: [email protected]
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
FB: fb.com/stephpinto
IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

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You promise yourself you won’t yell… and then suddenly, you have. Maybe your child’s tantrum isn’t even that big, but something in YOU snaps.

If you’ve ever wondered why you react the way you do, even when you know better, this episode is for you.

Today I’m not talking about how to “fix” your child, stop tantrums, or get quick compliance. I’m talking about the missing piece most parents were never taught: emotional intelligence, and how it completely changes the way you experience triggers, yelling, and discipline.

I unpack why reacting is often automatic, not a failure… Why punishment and control don’t create calm (even when they seem to work short-term)… And why self-awareness, not willpower, is the skill that gives you choice in hard moments.

This conversation will help you see your triggers differently, understand what’s really happening in your nervous system, and shift the focus from controlling behaviour to building connection and emotional safety.

No scripts. No step-by-step formulas. Just powerful orienting principles to help you respond more intentionally, even on the haaard parenting days.

If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same cycle, and you’re ready to parent with more calm, clarity, and confidence… this is one you don’t want to miss. Press play and let’s start changing the way you show up at home.

I mentioned my book From Chaos To Connection (How parenting with emotional intelligence raises kind, confident, resilient kids) - find it on Amazon here!

If you prefer to watch the video, find this episode on YouTube here.

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

Find my best-selling book on emotional intelligence, From Chaos To Connection on Amazon here!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: [email protected]
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
FB: fb.com/stephpinto
IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 148,000+ parents in the community!
🎉 Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

FREE MINI EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE MASTERCLASS!!

Even though emotional intelligence gets talked about a lot, I think it's actually understood very little.

So I decided to record a free, mini masterclass for you all and publish it on the podcast. I have stripped it back for you all and rebuilt it properly. Not as a buzzword. Not as “being nice”!! And definitely not as something only parents or teachers need to worry about.

This is my mini masterclass on what emotional intelligence actually is, how it shapes EVERY interaction you have, and why in 2026 it’s genuinely no longer optional regardless of who you are or where you live.

You'll see why emotions are data (not disruptions), how your nervous system quietly decides whether you stay calm or lose it, and why so many adults are blaming themselves for reactions that are actually biological. I unpack the skill-building side of EI, the stages people move through when learning it, and the hidden reason awareness alone can feel uncomfortable before it feels empowering.

And I couldn't NOT cover why “bad behaviour” is actually nervous system overload in disguise, how emotional intelligence predicts long-term success better than IQ, and why the adults around kids matter just as much as the kids themselves. Phew - a lot huh! You're going to love it.

If you’ve ever thought:
“I know better, so why do I keep reacting like this?”
“Why does everything feel so much harder lately?”
“How do I stay regulated when the world (and kids) are not?”

It’s not a lecture. It’s not a checklist. It’s a reframe that changes how you see yourself, kids, and behaviour altogether.

A must-listen for parents, educators, and anyone who wants to stop surviving interactions and start handling them with clarity, steadiness, and real choice.

📲 Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: [email protected]
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
FB: fb.com/stephpinto
IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 148,000+ parents in the community!
🎉 Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
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Parenting in 2026 isn’t harder because you’re doing it wrong. Trust me! It’s harder because the old tools don’t work anymore.

Today it's the first episode of the year!! So I’m reintroducing the foundation of emotionally intelligent parenting and sharing why emotional intelligence is no longer optional, it’s essential.

So I decided to talk about what emotional intelligence actually looks like in everyday family life, why behaviour is NEVER the full story, and how raising emotionally intelligent kids doesn’t require more charts, consequences, or parenting hacks.

Instead, I put together a list of 26 simple, practical ways to bring emotional intelligence into your home in 2026, WITHOUT doing more (or aiming for perfection). It sounds like a lot but I promise they are quick simple bite sized things.

This episode is for parents who are tired of reacting, tired of yelling, and tired of feeling like they should know better. I have a lot of teachers and therapists who listen and love the podcast too, so anyone who lives or works with kids will enjoy this!

Here's to a calmer, more connected way to raise resilient, confident kids in 2026. This episode is your starting point :)

📲 Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: [email protected]
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
FB: fb.com/stephpinto
IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 148,000+ parents in the community!
🎉 Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
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Ever had your child tell you something worrying, only for them to suddenly deny it? Or stress endlessly about tests and friendships but won’t let you help? 🥴

In this special 2 year anniversary episode, I’m diving into one of the most emotionally complex listener questions I’ve received so far. A mum reached out about her sensitive, bright 8-year-old who’s struggling with intense test stress, perfectionism, big mood swings at home, and confusing stories about bullying that seem to shift.

This episode is one of my deepest, most layered breakdowns yet. I unpack what’s really going on beneath these behaviours, why kids often hold it together at school but unravel at home, how perfectionism and identity can get tangled, and why shame can lead children to retract stories that were emotionally true moments earlier.

Even if your situation looks nothing like this one, I promise you’ll walk away with powerful insights you can apply to your own parenting. I share scripts, reframes, and emotionally intelligent strategies for supporting a dysregulated child, navigating school conversations gently and safely, and staying grounded yourself, esp when your own past experiences get triggered.

It’s a heartfelt, practical, compassion-filled deep dive… and one I’m so excited to share with you.

📲 Prefer to watch this episode and full video on YT? Find it here!

🩷 Hi! I’m an award-winning Emotional Intelligence parenting consultant, best-selling author and international speaker. I’m also a paediatric anxiety therapist and I love helping kids, parents and educators use emotional intelligence to become calmer, more connected and live happier lives!

Book a FREE 30 min consult with me to discuss coaching, support, collaborations or speaking engagements.
E: [email protected]
W: www.stephaniepinto.com
FB: fb.com/stephpinto
IG @emotionally.intelligent.parent

Have you joined my Facebook Group for parents? There are 140,000+ parents in the community!
🎉 Join Let's Raise Emotionally Intelligent Kids now.
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