BJJ Mental Models

This week, we're joined by Justin Relph! Justin is a self-described die-hard hobbyist, event marketer, and the black belt coach behind Jiu Jitsu Invermere, a not-for-profit gym in the mountains of British Columbia. In this episode, Justin shares his experience building community through jiu-jitsu in a small resort town, and we revisit the concept of third places: the social spaces beyond home and work that so many of us are missing. Topics include: the decline of third places in modern life, how to build gym culture around community rather than competition, bringing jiu-jitsu to where people are, and the power of unstructured social time after training.

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Mental models discussed in this episode:
Third Places
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/third-places

Growth from Discomfort
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/growth-from-discomfort

Ecological Dynamics
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/ecological-dynamics

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In our 100th mini-episode, we explain the golden rule, also known as the ethic of reciprocity or the "do unto others" principle. In our opinion, despite not being explicitly about grappling, the golden rule is the most important mental model for jiu-jitsu.  

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This week, we're joined by Jeff Shaw! Jeff is a black belt, head coach at Bellingham BJJ, and a history professor with peer-reviewed publications on jiu-jitsu history. In this episode, Jeff shares his findings on one of the most obscure and underappreciated figures in jiu-jitsu history: Rorden Gracie.

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This week, we're joined by Brad Stulberg! Brad is the author of multiple bestsellers including The Way of Excellence and Peak Performance. In this episode, Brad shares his findings from a decade of researching excellence: what it actually is, why we chase it, and what separates real pursuit from the performative version flooding our feeds. Topics include: the three Cs of excellence (caring, curiosity, consistency), self-handicapping, reframing nerves as excitement, why plateaus are a feature (not a bug), and how to make intelligent trade-offs so you stop spreading yourself too thin. If you've ever beaten yourself up for not progressing fast enough, this one's for you.

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Mental models discussed in this episode:
Process Over Outcomes
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/process-over-outcomes

Feedback Loop
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/feedback-loop

Defensive Thinking
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/defensive-thinking

Consistency
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/consistency

Compounding
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/compounding

Surface Area
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/surface-area

Keep It Playful
https://bjjmentalmodels.com/keep-it-playful

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In this week's mini-episode, we explain the elbow-knee connection: a defensive (and also offensive) concept where we shrink the gap between our elbow and knee. Closing this space makes guard passing and retention easier by denying our opponent access to our hips, arms, and legs.

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