To My Sisters

Sisters, imagine finding out your close friend has been married for FIVE months… and you had no idea. Is that privacy, or a sign you’re not as close as you thought? This week, we unpack the difference between protecting your peace and shutting people out, why some friends want information without actually showing up, and whether fear of the “evil eye” is stopping us from building genuine sisterhood. From healing after toxic friendships to the quiet comparison that makes vulnerability difficult, we’re asking some uncomfortable questions about how we love—and let ourselves be loved.

00:00 Married for five months… and you didn’t tell me?!
10:24 “I’m happier with no friends”—healing or shutting down?
21:25 The secret marriage that sparked a friendship debate
28:46 Are you actually close, or just connected online?
40:14 Can friends show up if you never let them in?
46:52 The “evil eye” excuse: are you using your friends?
50:45 When feeling “better than” your friends becomes a trap

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💌 ABOUT US:

At heart, To My Sisters is the fast-growing digital sisterhood founded to help women across the world leverage friendship and community to manifest their greatest ambitions.

To My Sisters is unique in its kind by offering women the space for holistic wellness, growth and healing. From dealing with past trauma to setting up your next business venture, TMS is the one-stop destination for women looking to break the boundaries of what is seen as possible in our time.

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What does a soft life in marriage actually look like? In part two of our conversation with Toni Tone, we talk about keeping your friendships after the wedding, learning to make decisions as a couple, and the difference between being cared for and expecting a lifestyle. Toni shares why she wouldn’t date someone for their potential, even though she believes in growing together. We also get into money, gratitude, and the reminder that rest is something you deserve without having to earn it.

👉🏾 Grab your copy of Toni Tone's new book 'Soft Life' here: https://amzn.eu/d/0drf4pcf

00:00 The truth about the “soft life”
05:30 Dilemma: He cheated — should she take him back?
16:30 Toni Tone on redefining the soft life
22:03 Why ambitious women struggle to rest
27:21 Marriage by 30? The danger of arbitrary timelines
34:07 Boundaries, standards & the courage to be disliked
39:47 How to build a soft life that doesn’t depend on a man

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💌 ABOUT US:

At heart, To My Sisters is the fast-growing digital sisterhood founded to help women across the world leverage friendship and community to manifest their greatest ambitions.

To My Sisters is unique in its kind by offering women the space for holistic wellness, growth and healing. From dealing with past trauma to setting up your next business venture, TMS is the one-stop destination for women looking to break the boundaries of what is seen as possible in our time.
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What does it actually take to build a soft life? This week, we’re joined by author and internet big sister Toni Tone for an honest conversation about creating abundance, peace and fulfilment on your own terms. We unpack why a soft life is about far more than money and luxury, the pressure women feel to hit arbitrary timelines, learning to rest without guilt, having the courage to be disliked, setting stronger boundaries, and building happiness that doesn’t depend on a relationship. Plus, Toni weighs in on a sister’s dilemma about cheating, second chances and whether you should stay for someone’s “potential.” If you’ve been craving a life that feels as good as it looks, this episode is for you.

👉🏾 Grab your copy of Toni Tone's new book 'Soft Life' here: https://amzn.eu/d/0drf4pcf

00:00 The truth about the “soft life”
05:30 Dilemma: He cheated — should she take him back?
16:30 Toni Tone on redefining the soft life
22:03 Why ambitious women struggle to rest
27:21 Marriage by 30? The danger of arbitrary timelines
34:07 Boundaries, standards & the courage to be disliked
39:47 How to build a soft life that doesn’t depend on a man

💌 Join the TMS Mailing List: https://www.tomysisters.com

📧 E-mail us your dilemmas and episode suggestions: dilemmas@tomysisters.com

💌 JOIN US ON SOCIAL MEDIA!
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tomysisterhood
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https://www.instagram.com/cdboateng
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💌 ABOUT US:
At heart, To My Sisters is the fast-growing digital sisterhood founded to help women across the world leverage friendship and community to manifest their greatest ambitions.

To My Sisters is unique in its kind by offering women the space for holistic wellness, growth and healing. From dealing with past trauma to setting up your next business venture, TMS is the one-stop destination for women looking to break the boundaries of what is seen as possible in our time.

🎧 LISTEN ON SPOTIFY AND APPLE:
https://open.spotify.com/show/2XZh8CV
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/to-my-sisters/id1539343980
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What happens when the values of the world start creeping into the Church? In this episode, we continue our deeply honest conversation about modern Christianity, church culture, hierarchy, power, prosperity, grace, accountability, women, suffering and what it really means to follow Jesus. We unpack why Christian communities can become more concerned with status than service, why grace should never become an excuse for bad behaviour, how harmful theology can be used to protect people in positions of power, and why our faith has to confront the way we think about everything — from money and relationships to justice and how we treat the vulnerable. Most importantly, we ask: are we actually becoming like Jesus, or have we made other people the standard for our faith?

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00:00 — Has the Church Lost Its Way?
04:02 — When Church Hierarchy Becomes Idolatry
05:28 — What Jesus Actually Said About Loving People
07:44 — Has Christianity Become Too Obsessed With Status?
31:27 — We’ve Completely Misunderstood Grace
34:14 — The Gospel Is Supposed to Confront You
56:05 — Stop Trying to Be Like David, Esther & Paul

💌 ABOUT US:
At heart, To My Sisters is the fast-growing digital sisterhood founded to help women across the world leverage friendship and community to manifest their greatest ambitions.

To My Sisters is unique in its kind by offering women the space for holistic wellness, growth and healing. From dealing with past trauma to setting up your next business venture, TMS is the one-stop destination for women looking to break the boundaries of what is seen as possible in our time.
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What happens when the place that was supposed to bring you closer to God becomes the place that hurt you? In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about church hurt, toxic church culture, spiritual community and what it looks like to still love Jesus after being wounded by His people. We unpack the difference between genuine harm and uncomfortable conviction, why Christian community still matters, the ways women can be failed by church systems, the danger of confusing culture with scripture, and why churches must be willing to listen when people say they’ve been hurt. Whether you’ve left a church, struggled to trust church leadership again, or are trying to rebuild your faith and find healthy community, this conversation is for you.

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📧 E-mail us your dilemmas and episode suggestions: dilemmas@tomysisters.com

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00:00 Church Hurt, Faith & Community
03:22 “I Left Church, Not Jesus” — Sister’s Dilemma
15:18 What Does “Church Hurt” Actually Mean?
23:03 Church Hurt or Uncomfortable Conviction?
29:22 Why Can’t It Just Be Me & Jesus?
45:40 The Ugly Side of Church: Scandal, Abuse & Women
58:31 When People Love Jesus But Hate the Church

💌 ABOUT US:
At heart, To My Sisters is the fast-growing digital sisterhood founded to help women across the world leverage friendship and community to manifest their greatest ambitions.

To My Sisters is unique in its kind by offering women the space for holistic wellness, growth and healing. From dealing with past trauma to setting up your next business venture, TMS is the one-stop destination for women looking to break the boundaries of what is seen as possible in our time.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.