Emotional Badass

Loneliness chips away slowly, not like a crisis you can diagnose with an MRI. Making friends as adults feels impossibly hard because we don't realize childhood forced us together, creating friendships that seemed magical but were really just proximity. Age-gap friendships carry a weird taboo, like something's inherently wrong with befriending people outside your generation, yet these connections offer nutrients your soul desperately needs. I share a personal story about a 20-year-old waitress that meets a couple in their 60s who show her what kindness looks like through small acts. WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1 :⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/coaching⁠⁠ 30 DAYS TO PEACE:⁠⁠ https://EmotionalBadass.com/peace⁠⁠ NARCISSIST ABUSE RECOVERY WORKSHOP:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/workshops⁠⁠ THE FREE MORNING ROUTINE :⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://EmotionalBadass.com/morning⁠⁠ Services, Products & Content: PATREON: ⁠⁠https://Patreon.com/emotionalbadass⁠⁠ WEEKLY NEWSLETTER:⁠⁠ https://www.EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter⁠⁠ PATTERNSCAPES WELLNESS DECK:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://getpatternscapes.com⁠⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Archetypes carry light and shadow attributes that show up in your daily life. The Companion brings loyalty until it betrays confidences or loses identity in codependency. The Samaritan helps people you'd ignore until they're recording good deeds for social media validation. Servants give freely until they're carrying people with functional legs, building resentment. Mentors refine character until they stomp on students who surpass them. The Avenger balances justice until righteousness becomes cancel culture. Shadow work isn't optional because rainbow-and-bunnies healers miss half the human experience. Resources: PATTERNSCAPES DECK: ⁠https://getpatternscapes.com/⁠ WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1: ⁠EmotionalBadass.com/coaching⁠ 30 Days to Peace Course ⁠EmotionalBadass.com/peace⁠ CODE: BADASS THE BI-WEEKLY WELLNESS NEWSLETTER ⁠EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter⁠ SUPPORT US ON PATREON ⁠Patreon.com/emotionalbadass⁠ Affiliates and Sponsors: Air Doctor https://airdoctorpro.com/ CODE: BADASS Brain FM https://www.brain.fm/emotionalbadass CODE: EMOTIONALBADASS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why do gut instincts about toxic people get ignored and talked away despite screaming warnings? Highly sensitive people exhaust themselves doing emotional calculus to predict what's happening in everyone else's heads while energy vampires drain them completely. That intelligent narcissist will never get it no matter how many perfect explanations get presented because low empathy means growth and self reflection stay permanently off the table. Playing small and dimming your light becomes automatic after years of learning that accomplishments make others uncomfortable, so managing everyone's feelings turns into a full time job instead of actually living. Affiliates and Sponsors: Brain FM https://www.brain.fm/emotionalbadass CODE: EMOTIONALBADASS Resources: PATTERNSCAPES DECK: https://getpatternscapes.com/ WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1: EmotionalBadass.com/coaching 30 Days to Peace Course EmotionalBadass.com/peace CODE: BADASS THE BI-WEEKLY WELLNESS NEWSLETTER EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter SUPPORT US ON PATREON Patreon.com/emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Loneliness during holidays gets weaponized by shame in highly sensitive people, turning togetherness expectations into daggers stabbing at your worth. That fullness of isolation doesn't mean you're alone - billions are yearning for connection just like you. The dangerous pattern happens when loneliness runs to your head and creates cutting stories: "You must be the only person alone on Christmas." Society has zero positive templates for loners, confusing solitude with dysfunction. The shift requires forcefully changing gears - actively looking for places you fit instead of cataloging everywhere you don't. Real connection might be two actions away. Affiliates and Sponsors: Brain FM Resources: PATTERNSCAPES DECK: https://getpatternscapes.com/ WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1: EmotionalBadass.com/coaching 30 Days to Peace Course EmotionalBadass.com/peace THE BI-WEEKLY WELLNESS NEWSLETTER EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter SUPPORT US ON PATREON Patreon.com/emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Confidence doesn't arrive before you do the thing, it shows up after your feet hit the ground. Nikki and Chris break down how insecurity actually works and why sensitive people often avoid confidence because they're terrified of becoming the arrogant narcissist who hurt them. They reveal the specific moments that built their confidence, from food poisoning disasters to stage fright at 17, and explain why pretending confidence actually creates real confidence over time. Chris shares the Tony Robbins technique for triggering confident states on command, while Nikki explains why your brain needs to do scary things while feeling weak to actually get stronger. They tackle a listener question about a boyfriend who won't let his girlfriend join his D&D campaign because he thinks she's too dumb, and discuss why that's either terrible communication or genuine arrogance. SPONSORS & AFFILIATES: Brain FM: 30 Day Free Trial & 20% Off https://www.brain.fm/emotionalbadass CODE: EMOTIONALBADASS RESOURCES: PATTERNSCAPES DECK: https://getpatternscapes.com/ WORK WITH NIKKI 1:1: EmotionalBadass.com/coaching 30 Days to Peace Course EmotionalBadass.com/peace THE BI-WEEKLY WELLNESS NEWSLETTER EmotionalBadass.com/newsletter SUPPORT US ON PATREON Patreon.com/emotionalbadass Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices