The Kink Perspective

On today's show, I'm talking about how the roles we identify with can become so important that we struggle to accept changes in ourselves. I'll explore the psychology of identity rigidity, personal expectations, and shame, and how protecting an established identity can begin affecting our relationships. We'll also examine how people can adapt to changing circumstances without abandoning the values and experiences that helped shape who they are.

This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling.
If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now.
#Psychology #Roles #Identity

On today's show, I'm joined by BuiltThroughHeat as we continue last week's discussion about men speaking up and holding other men accountable. We explore how individuals establish authority and influence within BDSM communities, why early warnings are often overlooked, and when men decide to intervene. I also introduce my four-level observational model as we discuss recognizing concerning patterns before serious problems emerge.

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I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now.
#Psychology #Men #Change #Speakingup

On today's show, I'm discussing what happens when men speak up about problematic behavior from other men, only to find themselves criticized, dismissed, or attacked for doing so. We regularly hear demands for men to hold one another accountable, but what happens when the people raising concerns become the targets themselves? I'll be looking at how popularity, community loyalty, and social pressure can discourage intervention, even when earlier warnings later prove justified.

This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling.
If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind
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Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack
I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now.
#Psychology #Accountability #Speakingup #Men

On today’s show, I’m discussing what happens when drop, attachment, and real changes in someone else’s behavior start feeling almost impossible to separate. We’ll look at why intense scenes can leave us more emotionally exposed, how uncertainty can change what distance means, and why not every uncomfortable feeling is just in our head. The question is simple: what changed in me, what changed in them, or both?

This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling.
If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind
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Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack
I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now.
#Psychology #Drop

On today's show, I'm discussing the difference between a safeguard and a wall, and how the things we build to protect ourselves can sometimes begin keeping connection out. I look at boundaries, vetting, trust, and what happens when reasonable caution becomes a search for certainty. I also explore whether our safeguards are helping us decide who to let closer, or making sure we never have to decide at all.

This episode is supported by Enhanced-Mind Counseling.
If you’re looking to understand the patterns behind your relationships, attachment, or the dynamics you find yourself in, you can reach out through my website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://enhanced-mind.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Continue the discussion on Fetlife: @Enhanced-Mind
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Want to be on the show or have an idea for an upcoming episode?Email me at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TheKinkPerspective@gmail.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Find me on Substack - Enhanced-Mind's Substack | Chris C. | Substack
I have a book out, Tangled Desires: Exploring the Intersection of BDSM and Psychology. You can find it where you purchase most eBooks. Print version available now.
#Psychology #Safeguard #Walls #Boundaries