23 Years of Secret Addiction: A Pastor's Shocking Recovery Story
In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with Blaine Bartel, a former megachurch pastor who built one of America's largest youth ministries before losing everything due to a 23-year secret addiction. For the first time, Blaine opens up about the moment his double life was completely exposed, the "terrifying grace" that shattered his world in 24 hours, and the brutal honesty required to rebuild from absolute rock bottom. They discuss everything from the difference between recovery and resurrection, why churches abandon fallen pastors, and the uncomfortable truths about what really happens when ministry success collides with hidden shame. From the shock of losing his marriage and ministry to discovering what true freedom actually looks like, this conversation reveals how one man died to everything he was and found life again. Whether you're struggling with addiction, wondering if restoration is possible, or simply curious about what real redemption looks like, this interview offers hope without sugarcoating the cost. Warning: This episode contains discussions about sexual addiction, ministry failure, and the kind of honest conversations most people never have.---Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/Follow Blaine at: https://blainebartell.com/---Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.comSupported by Plana https://plana.org/---CHAPTERS:00:00 - Blaine's Background: From Ministry Success to 23-Year Secret03:33 - "God Issued a Warrant for My Soul" - Complete Exposure in 24 Hours05:09 - "You'll Never Get Free" - The Doctor's Devastating Prediction06:45 - Recovery vs Resurrection: The Moment Everything Changed08:20 - "Jesus Makes Dead People Alive" - True Heart Transformation10:45 - Death Before Resurrection: Why the Cross Comes First12:43 - Why Pastors Fall So Hard and the Problem of Quick Comebacks17:34 - GOD BEHIND BARS PARTNERSHIP18:18 - The Loneliest Moment: When Everyone Cuts You Off24:28 - Carl's Story: Being Completely Shunned by Hillsong Church30:41 - Why Churches Choose Brand Protection Over Restoration36:14 - The Day They Finally Lifted Their Heads Again39:16 - PLANA.ORG PARTNERSHIP40:16 - Jesus Washing Feet: The Vision That Changed Everything43:37 - Understanding Addiction: The Three Greatest Fears of Every Man48:31 - Brain Chemistry vs Willpower: Why "Moral Failure" Misses the Point52:38 - Sacred Rituals: Bridging the Gap Between Inspiration and Transformation59:15 - Vision for the Man vs Vision for the Career: What Really Matters1:02:48 - How to Safeguard Your Life: Full-Throated Confession and CommunitySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Our Marriage Almost Failed Until We Accepted This Hard Truth
In this transformative episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz confront the uncomfortable truths that most people spend their entire lives avoiding. Together, they reveal the three hard truths that saved their marriage and transformed their lives: why you're 99% responsible for your problems (and solutions), why the relationship with yourself determines everything else, and why comfort is slowly killing your growth. Laura opens up about watching Carl face his emotional illiteracy, while Carl shares his therapy breakthrough discovering the childhood emotion that controlled him for decades. They discuss everything from why your spouse can't fulfill all your needs to the dangerous lie that prayer alone will fix your problems, and why men who can't name their emotions become volcanoes waiting to explode.This raw conversation exposes the victim mentality that keeps people stuck, the mirror test that changes everything, and why BBLs are the perfect metaphor for our culture's addiction to shortcuts. Whether you're tired of your own excuses, stuck in the same patterns, or ready to stop waiting for someone else to save you, this episode offers the brutal honesty needed for real transformation. Warning: This episode contains hard truths that will challenge your comfort zone and may trigger those committed to their victim stories.----Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/----Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.comSupported by Plana https://plana.org/----CHAPTERS:00:00 - Your Spouse Cannot Fulfill All Your Needs 06:00 - Truth #1: You Are 99% The Problem AND The Solution09:31 - The Victim Mentality & Morgan Wallen's Easy Way Out21:24 - God Behind Bars Partnership22:02 - Truth #2: The Most Important Relationship Is With Yourself27:20 - Why Repressed Emotions Make You a Volcano33:02 - Carl's Therapy Breakthrough: The Terror He Carried for 5 Years37:03 - Plana.org Partnership: Help for the Unexpected37:49 - Truth #3: Growth Only Happens Outside Comfort40:33 - BBLs & Ozempic: Why Shortcuts Always Fail43:55 - "Prayer Without Work Is Just Wishful Thinking"46:05 - The One-Week Challenge: Live as Your Best Version49:17 - "The Hard Truth Is I Love You"See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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"Why I Didn't Leave My Cheating Husband" - Laura Lentz Opens Up
In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with his wife Laura – the woman who chose to stay when 99.9% of people said she should leave. For the first time, Laura opens up about the moment that made her stay, the day-by-day survival strategy that saved their marriage, and the brutal honesty required to rebuild after betrayal. They discuss everything from losing their entire friend group to why Laura went to therapy for Carl's mistakes, and the uncomfortable truths about what really happens in intimate moments after infidelity. From the shock of discovering a hidden life to Christmas alone while Carl was in rehab, this conversation reveals how two people rebuilt from ground zero. Whether you're navigating betrayal, wondering if trust can be restored, or simply curious about what real redemption looks like, this interview offers hope without sugarcoating the cost. Warning: This episode contains discussions about infidelity, trauma, and the kind of honest conversations most couples never have.Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.comSupported by Plana https://plana.org/CHAPTERS:00:00 - "Why Didn't You Walk Out On Me?" The Opening Question02:02 - The Phone Call That Changed Everything: Carl's Childhood Trauma Revealed05:04 - "One Day at a Time" - The Marriage Contract That Saved Us09:01 - When Laura Reads the DMs (And Why Carl Has to Leave)10:47 - The Brad Pitt Test: Would She Have Left?11:53 - God Behind Bars Partnership12:30 - Losing Our Church: The Friends Who Never Called15:31 - How Laura Relearned Her Intuition After Betrayal17:01 - The Beach Conversation That Sent Carl to Rehab18:49 - Christmas Alone: When Healing Meant Separation20:55 - "Laura Must Have Known" - Addressing the Cheap Shots24:41 - Why "Biblical" Advice Almost Destroyed Us30:13 - Plana.org: Help for the Unexpected30:54 - The Friends We Lost (And Why It Feels Good Now)38:42 - "Do You Worry I'll Cheat Again?" The Hard Question42:11 - What She Really Thinks During Romantic Moments45:23 - Euphoric Recall: The Addiction Truth Nobody Talks About48:27 - Why Brutal Honesty Builds More Trust Than Perfect Answers50:22 - The People Who Judge the Loudest Hide the Most53:29 - Open Marriages, Honesty & Why Context MattersSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Why Your Kids Don’t Want to Spend Time With You (And How To Fix That)
In this deeply personal episode of Lights On, a father sits down with his wife Laura and daughter to reveal the unconventional family culture that has their kids choosing couch time over parties. They dive into the "corny" traditions that actually work, why confrontation leads to clarity, and how making awkward topics conversational changed everything. From discussing porn at the dinner table to the "no snitch" rule they completely reject, this family shares raw insights on raising emotionally intelligent kids who actually want to be home. Whether you're struggling to connect with your teenagers or wondering why family dinners matter, this conversation offers practical wisdom mixed with laugh-out-loud moments and surprising tears. Warning: This episode might challenge everything you think you know about "appropriate" family conversations.00:00 - Family Culture & Why Our Kids Choose Us Over Parties (Intro)00:53 - Summer Jobs, Stripper Poles & Love Island Drama04:30 - The Father's Day Dinner That Changed Everything11:10 - Why "Corny" Family Traditions Actually Work20:47 - How Close Families Can Be Annoying (The Warning)21:47 - God Behind Bars Partnership22:23 - Confrontation Creates Clarity: Our Family Rules31:02 - The Power of Family Dinners (Harvard Study)40:30 - Breaking the "No Snitch" Culture44:41 - Plana.org: Help for the Unexpected45:23 - Why We Talk About P*rn at the Dinner TableFollow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/ Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/ Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.com Supported by Plana https://plana.org/See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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I Spent 4.5 Years in Therapy - Here's What Actually Works
In this episode, Carl and Laura Lentz reveal what the growth phase of healing actually looks like after 4.5 years of intensive therapy work. Discover why growth includes failure, conflict, and moments of joy - and why most people quit before reaching this transformative stage. Carl shares his experience completing a rigorous 4.5-year therapy program and why consistency over convenience became the key to lasting change. Laura breaks down how to navigate conflict as a sign of growth rather than regression, and why you need trusted voices (not each other) to tell you when it's time to move forward. They expose the hard truth about dragging reluctant spouses into healing work and reveal why 60-75% of couples who commit to intentional repair work stay together. This isn't about perfection - it's about building a life where even your failures become fuel for something better.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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